To wait for a baby at this age?

[Jjuass]

we have one dc that we had accidentally after being together a couple of years. She’s now 3. I’m only just getting my career back on track and been offered a job with a decent pay rise and better opportunity.

but… it’s a big commute and my thought process was to simply do it for a year for the experience.

dp is 43. I’m 38. If we waited a year, then if we were lucky I would be having a baby at 40-41. Is this a silly thing to do? Should I accept my age and focus on the baby now and hope a similar opportunity comes up down the line?

I wouldn't choose a job you only ever intend to be in for a year over the chance to have a child at your age.

I wouldn't and I didn't.
I was 38 with my first and had my second at 40.

It was much harder at 40 (first pregnancy was straight forward) and the notion of doing it at again at 41-42 is too much.
Really wish we'd had started younger 😭 but then I wouldn't have had my and they are total delights.

No chance I’d wait at your age, if I definitely wanted another child.

Don't wait. If you want a second baby, get going on that now. You have no idea how long it will take.

I put my career on hold for a really long time, staying in a job I didn’t find exciting while trying to conceive. Got there in the end but I’m 10 years behind where I should be careerwise.

So take the job and focus on the baby making at the same time. If the baby works out you can always change jobs. Maybe you’ll even be in line for a promotion by then. Job markets move quickly. If you don’t manage to get pregnant, at least you haven’t missed out on a job you want.

Or don’t have another baby if you don’t want one. I’m not sure from your post. Are you looking for justification for not having a baby? Because you don’t need to justify it.

It depends how much you want another child. If you really want one then I wouldn’t delay at your age

Im 38 and we are doing ivf now

I know everyones different but at 38 and if you want another child - go for it

You could always use hertility health
To check ovarian reserve
I highly recommend them

Many people have a fair few abnornal eggs when 38 due to age