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To wonder why menstruation is the way it is

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Arina22 · 20/05/2025 14:27

I work in a female boarding school with teenagers.

Every week one of them is in terrible pain from her period. It ruins a big chunk of their lives.

I just wonder why on earth periods exist. Especially because if you take a certain medication, it makes the blood be reabsorbed by the body, and the body is totally fine. So there is no need for periods to exist at all

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AlertEagle · 20/05/2025 18:12

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 20/05/2025 18:02

My doctor said a lot of the stereotypical advice for serious period pains was to have a baby 😆🤔😳 And I did have much better periods after my 3 DC, with far less pain.

The type of pain regularly meant I was off school, and it used to make me bend over double when it went down the front of my thighs. I'd think that if I ever had bad labour pains, I'd probably cope pretty well, but of course the irony was being induced with an epidural, then 3 c-sections 😆

Now, of course during bloody perimenopause, I get the most horrible javelin arse which is actually a lot more painful 😒

I had no idea it was a myth. Tbh I used to cry from pain and passed out once it was that bad.

Greybeardy · 20/05/2025 18:16

Palsaq · 20/05/2025 17:51

The technology exists to extract periods. It's just suppressed because you can also use it to do early abortions. But theoretically we could all have an extractor at home and just whip the whole thing out in five minutes once a month.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Menstrual_extraction

have you never seen any of the threads about women having painful hysteroscopies? Can't see DIY suck-your-own-period-out kit taking off!

reesewithoutaspoon · 20/05/2025 18:19

Historically, women didn't have as many periods as they do now.
They started later, the average age was 16 in the 17th century, they had more irregular periods due to poor nutrition, and they spent more time either pregnant, breastfeeding, or dead. The average life expectancy was much lower.
Less likely to get endometriosis if you aren't shedding uterine lining into your abdominal cavity every month.
They reckon we get around 450 periods during our lifetime, compared to 100 in previous centuries before birth control and improved nutrition and medical advances.

ThatDaringEagle · 20/05/2025 18:20

Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 20/05/2025 16:53

God is sexiest and had no idea what he was doing when created us

It wouldn't be MN if a man wasn't blamed! Would it!?
Classic!! 😂

Mardychum · 20/05/2025 18:26

Arina22 · 20/05/2025 17:18

Bad diets probablg dont help periods.

But i think the huge issue is a lack of womens healthcare . Its shocking.

Womens wombs change over time, and pain can mean something is wrong.

I used to have painfree periods, then all of a sudden mine became terribly painful. I went to the doctor and he told me he thought i had constipation.

I told him i can tell the pain is in my womb. He kept saying that he thinks the pain is in my bowels

When you say lack of women’s health care, what do you mean?

WomenInSTEM · 20/05/2025 18:31

Periods must give some evolutionary advantage compared to other methods. I don't know what those advantages are though, I will do some research and get back to you all. 😁

ThisUsernameIsNowTaken · 20/05/2025 18:31

What is the point of moaning about something you can't change? I don't understand all the negativity around periods and menopause on this site.

WomenInSTEM · 20/05/2025 18:32

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IsoldeWagner · 20/05/2025 18:33

ThatDaringEagle · 20/05/2025 18:20

It wouldn't be MN if a man wasn't blamed! Would it!?
Classic!! 😂

Yeah, but she did say he was "sexiest" 😂

WomenInSTEM · 20/05/2025 18:34

ThisUsernameIsNowTaken · 20/05/2025 18:31

What is the point of moaning about something you can't change? I don't understand all the negativity around periods and menopause on this site.

Firstly, we can change it. I went on the pill as a teenager which stopped the terrible pain.

Secondly, with that attitude nothing would ever change or improve!

IsoldeWagner · 20/05/2025 18:35

WomenInSTEM · 20/05/2025 18:34

Firstly, we can change it. I went on the pill as a teenager which stopped the terrible pain.

Secondly, with that attitude nothing would ever change or improve!

... thirdly, it all involves a lot of pain, mess and inconvenience!

Greengagesnfennel · 20/05/2025 18:37

BabyDoge · 20/05/2025 14:59

I saw a documentary which said that we need to have external menstruation so that our bodies are able to miscarry if there's something wrong with the baby, or if it would cause problems for the mother.

I didn’t know this, but now you say it then it makes sense.

Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 20/05/2025 18:52

ThatDaringEagle · 20/05/2025 18:20

It wouldn't be MN if a man wasn't blamed! Would it!?
Classic!! 😂

Always the man’s fault 😂

Thomasina79 · 20/05/2025 18:56

I don’t think the medical profession take ‘women’s issues’ seriously. Any doctors out there who can dispute this?

Dogaredabomb · 20/05/2025 18:58

Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 20/05/2025 16:54

We’re still getting punished

For Adam and his knob.

Theunamedcat · 20/05/2025 19:00

Mardychum · 20/05/2025 18:26

When you say lack of women’s health care, what do you mean?

How much research goes into female specific health care? I mean actively research into treatments that help period problems pregnancy problems? Because after all these years women shouldn't be suffering from cramps

LittleBitofBread · 20/05/2025 19:01

WomenInSTEM · 20/05/2025 18:31

Periods must give some evolutionary advantage compared to other methods. I don't know what those advantages are though, I will do some research and get back to you all. 😁

I'd be really interested to know!

WaryCrow · 20/05/2025 19:02

ThatDaringEagle · 20/05/2025 18:20

It wouldn't be MN if a man wasn't blamed! Would it!?
Classic!! 😂

God as conceived by Judaism, Christianity and Islam is most definitely male, still routinely blames women for ‘original sin’, and still routinely bars women from full membership and engagement. Oh, except for controlling their clothing.

Ypu might want to look up a fascinating book called ‘Europe the first million years’ for a quick reminder of just how much male apes have controlled evolution. There’re plenty of other books on domestication of course, but that one had me hooked. Plus a few on how damaging the last 400 years particularly have been for women - try ‘Normal women’ by Philippa Gregory.

Dogaredabomb · 20/05/2025 19:03

WaryCrow · 20/05/2025 17:35

Not sure about poor diet causing period pains, in recent past diets would have been poorer. Quite possibly poor enough that women wouldn’t have had regular periods. Although hunter gatherer diets are generally said to have been far healthier than later farming diets.

The existence of the hymen is a nasty fucking joke as well. Imagine if that little indicator of female virginity never existed. One less excuse for the male apes to control.

Do female apes have hymens?

Dogaredabomb · 20/05/2025 19:04

MoistVonL · 20/05/2025 17:38

At least I could have my hands free!

And box with your feet!

Mardychum · 20/05/2025 19:05

Theunamedcat · 20/05/2025 19:00

How much research goes into female specific health care? I mean actively research into treatments that help period problems pregnancy problems? Because after all these years women shouldn't be suffering from cramps

Can you tell me if you're arguing there isn't enough? It's a very complex area. I had my own assessment recently with a gynae consultant and was pretty astounded at some of the research going on but it's complicated when the NHS is under such pressure to suddenly change pathway processes for care.

Dogaredabomb · 20/05/2025 19:07

dynamiccactus · 20/05/2025 17:49

Definitely this.

At the very least we should have a zip to get a baby out, and should be able to control the loss of blood like we generally can for urine and bowel movements.

I don't think we did die that young when we were cave(wo)men - health actually declined when we started living in groups and farming.

Edited

Because we got annoyed at having to bake bread literally all day long rather than just having runs with tigers.

LavenderBlue19 · 20/05/2025 19:15

Mischance · 20/05/2025 18:10

If there is a god, and I ever get to meet her, I will be having words ..........

Bloody great design fault, along with a whole raft of other things: childbirth pain, shit smelling foul (could have chosen for it to smell lovely!), the comedy that is sex, adolescence, male/female incompatibility, and the whole perverse decision to base life on earth on the principle of kill or be killed - what is that about?!

Shit smells so that we don't try to eat it. Same with vomit. They're waste products and would be bad for us, so nature made them revolting.

WaryCrow · 20/05/2025 19:20

Dogaredabomb · 20/05/2025 19:03

Do female apes have hymens?

Ooh good question!

A quick google-oogle says they exist in whales, horses and elephants, where they’re only torn on giving birth. It’s hard to find decent links - it seems there’s not an awful lot of research into women’s biology, can’t imagine why. Some theories for the existence include upright walking or the ol’ aquatic ape theory leading to a greater poss of infection. A couple mention patriarchy and sexual selection as a possibility but that doesn’t seem likely as patriarchy is very late in evolution - probably linked to farming, seems to be a later condition in Sumerian societies and something that swept through on the back of Rome perhaps. Suppression of women seems to come about with economic change.