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AIBU?

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to be a little annoyed

6 replies

fifibella · 20/05/2008 13:34

because we have the inlaws round every sunday just before dd has her lunch and very often its dh's only day off.

i got really mad this sunday, firstly great inlaws turned up unannounced about 11.00, dh was mad. he doesn't really like people just turning up and neither do i. they stayed for about half an hour. inlaws were supposed to be coming about 11.20 but they didn't turn up until 11.45. about half an hour later BIL and girlfriend turned up unannounced to bring FIL his birthday card as he knew he would be visiting us. they were all stood in the kitchen while i was trying to get dd's lunch sorted. dd was also tired because we had a bad night with her. anyway i couldn't get to the fridge or the cupboards because everyone was standing in the way. dh made drinks and told everyone to go into the living room because dd won't eat her lunch if we have visitors stood around. i sat with dd while she had her dinner and could hear everyone laughing in the other room (they're always quite loud and they talk about such c**p).

could feel myself getting really upset. when dd had finished her dinner i took her upstairs to change her and stayed there for a while wishing everyone would just p**s off. i brought her downstairs when they were about to go. when they had finally gone dh knew i was upset and i went upstairs and burst into tears. afterwards i did feel better. i'm 5 months pg btw so i suppose it could be hormones. i'm just sick of the routine on a sunday with visitors. know its probably going to get worse when lo is born. they only started visiting on a sunday a few weeks before dd was born and we've had it ever since.

we are trying to get the house finished before baby is due so a bit reluctant to go out on sundays at the moment. dh works long hours in the week so very often its too late to start working on the house thats why we leave it to sundays.

don't know whether to ask them to visit on a sat or for me to go there, but they're a family that seem to like routine.

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NotABanana · 20/05/2008 13:50

We used to see my inlaws every weekend and it just got too much. The next time they rang to arrange which day we said we were busy and let it slide.

Tell them today that you are having a quiet family day this weekend. Gives them notice to buy their own food in.

YANBU

LullyMummaOfOne · 20/05/2008 14:02

YANBU, i think you should speak to them and tell them how you feel. My DH only has Sundays off too so i know how precious they are as a family. Im lucky though as i see my parents most days when picking up DS (as my mum looks after him when i work) so our weekend are ok plus my DH parents live abroad!!
I hope you manage to sort things out

fifibella · 20/05/2008 14:03

thanks for that. i think something needs to be sorted as i really don't want this to continue when lo is born.

once a fortnight sounds ok and maybe on another day if they will be happy with that.

i know i shouldn't but i feel guilty if they don't see dd once a week. it doesn't bother dh.

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posieflump · 20/05/2008 14:10

I think it's up to your dh to talk to them about it, it should be you as they are his family.

fifibella · 20/05/2008 14:17

thank you so much, don't feel so bad now i've read your replies. going to speak to dh about it before the weekend.

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