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To be concerned about Dsis drinking

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Springslopes12 · 19/05/2025 23:04

My sister had an accident a few months ago which meant she couldn't drive for a prolonged period of time. She is on the mend and is otherwise physically able and healthy.
Recently I've noticed she's posting alot of alcohol and her drinking when she never used to.
Within the past week she's gone out in the day and drunk with friends, she's posted pictures of cans of alcohol with a high alcohol % saying she can't wait to drink them.
She's posted her watching tv with a big run bottle and then told me she drink half of it and fell asleep on the sofa and just "got carried away". She drunk this on her own her fiance was in bed.
This weekend she had an event so did drunk. The next day she drunk whilst out with young children and other people including shots.
Today she's posted seeing friends but she's having wine whilst they are having coffee.
I've brought it up to our DM and said I'm concerned but she doesn't think anything of it.
I'm just concerned by the amount she's drinking recently. She never used to drink this much. Perhaps on nights out but not daytime drinking.
Aibu to think it could go down a bad path

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Springslopes12 · 20/05/2025 05:11

Bump

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jeaux90 · 20/05/2025 06:58

Just ask her?

WildflowerConstellations · 20/05/2025 07:10

I'd ask her, sensitively.

She's been through a traumatic experience. Maybe say you've noticed her mentioning drinking more than she used to her ask her if she is okay and if she might be self medicating with alcohol? Ask her if she's okay?

She might be in denial but yes it sounds like her relationship with alcohol is becoming unhealthy and she could definitely do with a break and trying some other ways to unwind.

Ultimately you can't stop her drinking but if this was my sister I would also be worried.

Sajacas · 20/05/2025 07:38

You are worried about what she is posting on social media? Have a conversation with her.

Springslopes12 · 20/05/2025 07:58

Sajacas · 20/05/2025 07:38

You are worried about what she is posting on social media? Have a conversation with her.

Yes I'm slowly seeing a change in what she's posting. I don't see her every day and we don't speak every day either. Just concerned for her wellbeing especially since I know she's had a tough time recently

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SwanOfThoseThings · 20/05/2025 08:07

How do you get on with her fiancé? Could you speak with him about it? He will have more idea of how much she is really drinking - social media isn't always the full story. If he is concerned, he's also best placed to support her day-to-day in cutting down.

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