Sharing childcare when toddler ill

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It needs to be shared in my opinion. Drives me up the wall where I work that it’s always the mum taking parental leave to cover child sickness. Makes it seem that a women’s career is of less importance than the man’s.

Good luck - you will need it - your partner sounds fairly useless.

Of course it needs to be shared. Your dp is basically saying he is more important than you. I’d get up and leave for work.

Depends so much on type of job too, if you can work from home it’s quite different to a surgeon who would have to cancel 4 patients and waste nhs resources through the other staff having nothing to do …

in an ideal world it’s shared but not everything is that simple

It should be split but if he’s on probation and in the early days of a job, it’s tricky as you don’t want him to lose his job. But then on the other hand your job is then at risk if you do all the sick days.

It’s bloody tough over the first 6-12 months of nursery, so you have my sympathy. But it does get easier.

Yes ideally it should be shared but 50:50 may not be realistic every time. E.g. if you’re on probation in a new job so he might do it all this time but next time the toddler is ill and it happens to coincide with a v busy for him then it’ll be your turn. Personally I’d aim to even out over the course of a year rather than each specific illness.