Would this drive you nuts like it does me?

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DH is NOT a morning person. Getting out of bed is a task he just cannot master at the best of times and needs about 10 alarms before he gets out of bed.

Recently, he’s announced that he will start doing some exercise before work. Great - good for him. His alarm is now set at the wonderful time of 5am, an hour before I get up with the kids and then it’s go go go.

Only he is too tired to make it, his alarm blares at 5am, waking me in the process, he snoozes it a million times so I can’t get back to sleep because baby starts shuffling about in their cot and now I’ve been robbed of an hour of precious sleep!

I asked him to get rid of the alarm but heck! How can he TRY to go an exercise if he doesn’t put his alarm on? I mean I see his point but come on!

so AIBU - suck it up, he’s TRYING or YANBU - that would drive me round the bend!

@saltinesandcoffeecups no matter the alarm time, it takes a few snoozes!

Put your foot down OP, this is selfish and immature behaviour. He needs a silent alarm (smartwatch) or to exercise at a different time. It's not fair to ruin your sleep. This is unacceptable. If he hasn't got it in him to get out of bed discreetly this time, he finds another solution.

As our strictest dinner lady used to should 'don't try, DO IT!!'. She was usually right.

And don't be' hamstrung by 'you're stopping me losing weight '. No, he can do that by employing one of the above solutions.

Then maybe he should start by trying to get up when your alarm goes off & go for a brisk walk round the block. He could work up to C25K, plenty of time to fit it in.

My ex used to do this. Notice the ‘ex’.

Can I assume that he has also never done any of the night wakings with babies and small children and leaves it all to you?

He sounds like a selfish prick and if his inability to wake up is due to his weight, he needs to see a doctor.

He did actually do one wake and I did the rest when DCs were tiny, luckily DC2 has slept through the night for a long time now. But I suppose that’s complacency now - just because the night isn’t so bad, he sees it as I’m soooooo well rested

I broke up with a guy because of selfish alarm clock nonsense. No man is worth a crap sleep.

I’d tell him he either gets up with the 5am alarm, or he can shove it up his arse go and sleep in a different room away from you and the children.
I have an H who supposedly can’t get up straight away and needs his alarm going off for an hour before he gets up. We don’t sleep in the same room now 😉