To think this level of worry is not normal?

[JustsamanthaJayne]

So today my kids have a dental checkup
Since last week my body has been in fight or flight mode and my body has been in full of nerves for a week and my bowels literally are reacting to the stress let's just say that
Also I've lost my appetite
I am thinking the worst and imaging all sorts. I'm sat thinking they are gonna need so many fillings teeth removed and be all put yo sleep for treatment! They are not the best brushes it's Been a massive battle to brush their teeth but I still did it with literal force.
Now I'm thinking if there is any issues it's all my fault and and don't deserve to live anymore. And that they deserve to be given to better people
Is this level of anxiety normal?? I don't know why i get in these states

This is a bizarre reaction to a routine appointment but I don’t really know what to advise apart from you probably need to see your GP about your anxiety.

Second that.

Just breathe.

Well done for getting them a dental appointment. Not easy to find a dentist with availability these days. Is it the first time they've been?

No, this level of worry is not normal.
Do you get like this about other things?
Worst case scenario, one of them needs a filling.

Please try not to call someone suffering with anxiety as 'bizarre'. She's posting here for help. She's already aware it's not normal.

She said it’s a bizarre reaction, which it is. She didn’t name call.

People worry about different things.

Visits to the dentist I always took in my stride. I would take the children as exH is terrified of the dentist so he wouldn't take them. On the other hand, exH loved flying, I was utterly terrified of it for a couple of decades (but I managed to overcome it).

It's best to just face these things sometimes. It helps to overcome the anxiety. Well done, OP for taking the first couple of steps!

Same problem really, unfortunately.

Is this level of anxiety normal??

Oh come on, really?

No that’s not normal OP. Thinking you don’t deserve to live over something that hasn’t happened yet and that you have tried to prevent is catastrophisation. I’d reach out to your GP.

Plus, remember that much of dental decay is genetics. My husband is far better with his teeth than I and I’ve never had a cavity and he’s had 3.

Also they’d be in pain if they needed such drastic treatment like surgery.

This is not a healthy level of anxiety, no. Do you worry this much about other things, or do you have a strong fear of the dentist yourself? I agree that checking in with your doctor about it would be good for you.

You need to see a health professional to be supported.

This is unhealthy for you and you may be projecting on to your children.