I’m genuinely curious as to whether I’m being unreasonable.
I’ve been a SAHM for 6 years. We’ve not had it easy, we have a 6 year old and a 1 year old and in between them had a stillborn baby. It’s been tough. Our one year old was also born with a disability which has required lengthy hospital stays far away from home.
I went back to work last year 3 days a week. Nursery fees were far too much as my husband’s business started failing so we had to drop down to 1 day a week so I’m back to being a sahm and working 1 day a week at my husband’s company. A few weeks ago he decided to take a MH day for himself. I said I felt he needed it and encouraged that he do this more often. He took himself off for the day, sat in the sun and had a few beers and a nice lunch. Strolled about the city and just relaxed. He gets quite a lot of down time in my opinion, goes out once a week and has the odd couple of hours to himself over the weekends etc.
when he took the MH day I was at home with the 1 year old and I said that I would like to do that, he said he highly recommends it and that he felt chilled and I really connected and respected him for finally understanding that having time alone is so beneficial.
I'm run down, tired, touched out right now and so today I asked what was needed to be done at work this week (tomorrow is my one day in the office) he said nothing really needs doing so he’s have to find me something. I said maybe I could take my MH day? Drop kids to school and nursery and have some down time to myself? He started laughing and scoffed about why I would need downtime if I only work one day a week?! I said I don’t ‘work’ one day a week! I work full time! As a parent. Keeping the house together etc. He said it’s ridiculous and that I need to be in work tomorrow!
I brought up his MH day and what he’d said to me about it at the time and he laughed and said ‘I wanted the day to myself, I would have said anything at the time to make sure I wasn’t roped in to staying with the children at home!’
I am really upset by this! He thinks it’s funny that I was so angry earlier and refuses to accept that being at home looking after a clingy 1 year old is difficult.
am I in the wrong here? I feel really fed up but never know how to get my point across to someone that just doesn’t see it!