My (then) best friend ghosted me a few years ago. It was unbelievably painful. I thought I’d moved on and was doing better but the feelings have been cropping up again recently for some reason.
I now live in a different city, so it’s not as if we’re in a small village, but I still have mutual friends in the city where she lives who I sometimes go back to see. Was just talking to one of them and she mentioned she’d recently run into my former best friend, and asked whether I’d be seeing her next time I’m in the city. It seemed pretty clear she was asking the question to try to dig into what had happened between us - I assume former best friend must have said something that made it clear we’re no longer really in touch.
I know there are a lot of posts on mumsnet by people who have been ghosted, I’m just wondering how you handle this? I found the question really upsetting and it was also unexpected (gave a vague answer and finished the call as soon as I could). Do you just tell people ‘yeah, she ghosted me’? I felt like an idiot trying to evade the question when it was pretty obvious mutual friend knew something, but I just really didn’t want to get into it. Though in some ways it would be a relief to talk it over with someone who knows us both and say frankly how much it’s hurt me. But it also feels humiliating to do that. How would you handle it? How have you handled it?