To have sex with my ex?

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Split up with my husband of ten years, had a brief relationship with someone else after that I met online, that fizzled out and I’m single again but reluctant to go back on the apps. I got chatting with my ex boyfriend from when I was 18 and he’s pretty much offered it on a plate. I am struggling with the sudden lack of sex but I am also very over him and not that attracted to him anymore, I’ve been with much more attractive men in the years since. But it’s sex without hassle. Is it a terrible idea?

Yes terrible idea

If you're both clear that it doesn't mean anything, then no reason not to. It's just sex. You must be at least somewhat attracted to him to be contemplating it?

Yes, of course it's a terrible idea.
Are you an idiot?
NEVER go back
Or compromise
Or make do

If you’re not attracted to him, don’t bother.
Its not going to be fun.

Well I wouldn't. You deserve better and can get it too.

You must have hit rock bottom to even contemplate it.

If you’re clear in your mind it’s just sex then nothing wrong with it.

just bear in mind your bonding hormones might kick in after a few times which might make stepping away painful. If you’re confident you can ride out the pain when you know it’s time to step away, do it.

if the pain would tempt you to go back to him, don’t do it.

He’s not ugly but I have upgraded since let’s say 😂 the chat is good, we have a lot of teenage memories it’s fun to reminisce about 15 years ago and the humour is quick and funny. Zero chance I’d get feelings back.

Go for it. That should be a song, Sex with my Ex.

Bad idea. Besides the fact it has potential to get very messy, you're not even attracted to him so what's the point? Masturbation is a better option for when you are getting the urge.

Fine not to find him attractive but it's sad you think" upgrading " is purely about looks .

Have a trip down memory lane, go for it.

What happens after is it fwb or you both walk away. I’d rather diy than go with an ex

It sounds like you’re talking yourself into this.
You don’t need to shag him because you enjoy his company.

id be far more encouraging if you said you’ve met a guy who is massively inappropriate ( much younger/older/ the postman/ your best friends ex/ your boss) but you really fancied him.

by all means have a fling, but make it someone you want to sleep with!

I don’t really know how to meet anyone else without going on the bloody apps!

This

Eh I'd get on the apps tbh

Was he good in the sack? Or do you think he has the length to be good in the sack, is a better question? 🤭

If not, leave it tbh

But if so, use protection! xx

If you're not attracted to him then I think its a mean thing to do.

I don't see the problem unless he's a bit in love with you maybe?

It wouldn't be my first choice, but you seem to want to, so 🤷‍♀️

This sounds like the opposite of 'sex without hassle'! It's sex with already a load of baggage attached. And why would you want to sleep with someone you aren't at all attracted to?!

Besides which, if it's just no strings sex you are after, isn't that what the apps are good for?! Finding meaningful relationships seems to be harder (TBH, just from what people tell me. Never been OLD)

If you’re not attracted to him, don’t have sex with him. You’ll leave feeling shit