Would you correct your 16/17 for.....

[bookworm8500]

CONSTANTLY saying 'freakin'? Freakin' this, freakin' that. It's genuinely nearly every sentence and we have much younger children in the house too.

She's also recently started to stop saying the 'th' sound, so instead of saying 'think', she says 'fink' and instead of 'thought' she says 'fort'. I ignore this.

It just sounds awful and I hate it. I thought this stage of talking badly to sound cool was over by about 14 years old, but it's stayed since sixth form

YABU freakin' unreasonable to correct her
YANBU and I would freakin' correct her too

From experience, I disagree.

Rightly or wrongly, people do often assume a lower level of intelligence from those who say “fought” when they mean “thought”.

Ignore the 'freakin' definitely. It's light years away from saying 'fuckin', like some see to.
As long as she retains the ability to switch betwixt 'fort' and 'thought' within the appropriate context, I wouldn't nag her too much.
I switch between well spoken and more 'slang-y', dependent upon whom I'm with (I come from quite a rough background, but got a scholarship to a private school and was at a RG uni, so have quite a mixed accent and vocabulary!).

I'd record her and point out how ridiculous she sounds lol.

My kids often drop their T’s (SE London) and I’ve told them they need to learn to code-switch. I don’t care if they talk like that around their mates but they also need to know how to talk ‘properly’.

Start using freakin’ yourself.

She will quickly find it the cringiest word ever.

This.

Definitely one to correct - I hate silly euphemisms for swearwords. Tell her if she means 'fucking' she should say 'fucking'.

My mum wouldn't correct but she would ask me why or she would repeat it back to me which made me more mindful.

Two words. Beep beep. IYKYK.

I’d definitely have to correct this, like someone said it’s the difference between fitting in with an employer and not. Our business has a th name and we didn’t try hard to keep someone when they said they were leaving, who kept pronouncing it with an F. That wasn’t the only thing but it didn’t help 😆

I mean you can ask but not really do anything about it.

Those who tell teens off what exactly do you do if they just ignore and consistently keep dropping the ‘t’ in water? you can’t exactly remove their devices or ground them 😅

Can’t you? Are you not still the parent in charge of a 16/17 year old? I am.

You would remove a 16/17 year olds phone for not speaking how you want?

I'd get used to them not speaking to you at all soon

‘In charge’ of how a 17-year-old pronounces words? 😭

In charge of the teenager! Not in charge of how they pronounce things.

At 16/17 then yes a parent should be able to exert control when needed - such as limiting phone access or how often/late they go out. Obviously for more serious issues, and only when really needed.

Well seeing as I’ve got good relationships with my teenagers (late teens) I’m not too worried about your opinion. I do talk to my one child who sometimes decides she’s going to deliberately mispronounce words about correct pronunciations, explaining how people may judge and it could affect job interviews etc. and so I don’t have to “punish” them or threaten to do so. I don’t ever remove their phones but I do know that I absolutely could if needed in a more serious behavioural situation, whereas you seem to be suggesting that a parent doesn’t have any kind of control over their child of that age.

You could put on some Father Ted and introduce her to fecking.

But this was specifically about word usage. And you suggested taking their phone

BTW, threats about employment rarely work and are usually wrong anyway

At no point did I suggest taking away their phone for pronouncing words wrongly. Pp suggested that you can’t remove devices or ground a child of that age - I disagreed.

It’s a substitute for saying fucking or frigging, is it not? So it is pretty inappropriate tbh.

Hate how DS says ‘what the heck’ because I know he means ‘what the hell’, it’s just not necessary (he’s 10 so I’ll loosen up on that one soon enough, but he has tiny siblings around)

But I am a prude eg hate how the multiple American vloggers I used to watch tend to call their kids turds 😮 apparently in a cute way but ew. So unnecessary.

I love a good swear but overuse for the sake of it is just irritating and loses its meaning - context is key! Why use it if it has no meaning left?

Sing

"Ah, freak out!
Le freak, c'est chic"

every time they say it.

Will probably stop within a week

(Extra effective if accompanied by matching dance moves)

Can we try and be thoughtful. I have a lisp and can’t say th as a speech impediment. I’m bright, everyone who knows me thinks that so your comment is just stupid.

Start continuously singing the Jodeci song around the house.

I said this above
It's basically abelism to insult people and call them thick when they might have a speech impediment

What do you prefer, " lavatory" or "water closet"?
The word "loo" no longer signals poshness apparently OP, in fact the opposite.