New neighbours complaining about our toilet

[Amanda98]

We’ve got a new build where one side of our house completely backs on to a neighbours garden - that’s the back wall/boundary of their garden essentially.

Downstairs, we have a toilet with a window which is on the side of the house where that wall is, and has a small window which opens at the top. Their garden is slightly lowered so it isn’t within reaching distance. It’s a fairly odd design but we’ve lived here for years with no issues.

The neighbours have recently changed. In one of the early weeks in April when it was warm, they put a note through the door which asked we keep the window closed when it’s sunny because of the smell. We don’t really open it much anyway so thought nothing of it.

We’ve since had a further note through this week asking it stays closed on Saturday because they are hosting a BBQ for a family members birthday. We also have family over on Saturday and the downstairs loo is the one they’d naturally use.

Are the neighbours being CF? They surely can’t expect us to introduce a rule where we only crap upstairs whenever they say so!

No wonder the neighbours are complaining if they're doing a window shit...

We know a farm who had neighbours complain that they didn’t like having ro
watch cows wee out of the dining room window
Cows can wee out of windows?? Every day's a school day!

How is this situation even occurring? Do they come round purposefully to poo at your house? I just simply wouldn't have people round who use my facilities to poo every week.

😂😂😂😂😂

With three sons my guess would be there's a urine smell.

So brazen of them to write notes though!

Our downstairs loo is right at the back of the house, what used to be the rear hallway, almost outside so DH is encouraged to use that one as there are two doors between it and the utility room, it is bit chilly in winter though. I guess a lot of downstairs loos are nearer the living areas so not used for poos so much

I don't think they're unreasonable actually as you have multiple toilets and it must smell like someone endlessly shitting in their garden

Go round and ask if it is a poo or wee smell?

I'd probably ask to go around and smell what they are smelling. Either they are nuts or there's something wrong with your toilet that you can't tell from your side, in which case you may need a plumber.

That would probably have to be timed with OPs family poo time though
For the full on effect

Depending if the issue is actually poo time (in which case the neighbour has to deal with it as how long can it last? A few wafts?) or something more persistent that is an actual plumbing problem.

Are they nuerodiverse? Potentially they have undiagnised sensory issues and have noses akin to a sniffer dog.
They might also be neighbours from hell, and next thing they will be trying to claim your toilet as their own land by smearing their own shit on your wall as territory markers.
I suggest you first call the police on them for slander and then move house immediately to a house with no neighbours in the middle of the country, not before taking a dump on their lawn. That will teach the CFs.

If it was a drain issue it would be lingering all the time.
OP wouldn’t have got a note about a specific date then.

Plus
If it’s a drain issue from OPs toilet then it’s still OPs problem.

Yes, I'd want to know if I had a drain issue, but you're right, it would be a persistent issue rather than a specific date issue. Neighbour's must have very sensitive noses.

Yes. Walk upstairs to use the toilet.

Especially if they eating.

Our most used toilet is downstairs and faces our back garden. Never in 7.5 years have I noticed a smell from the garden.

I don’t think they asking that it’s not used just that the window stays shut. Which tbh isn’t a big ask. I rarely open ours. And if it stinks, why would you want to share that with a whole garden full of neighbours and their guests! Keep it to yourself!

It's weird I think. They have all been coming in the morning as I've been housebound post surgery.
One has had a gastric sleeve, the other my carer who is one of those people who goes three times a day and the 'great Dane' mimicker has always done it. She even left one in my shop loo once. It took two days to go down.
I'm afraid I'm a no poo mumsnetter due to living with too many siblings. I'd be sitting there and there would be hammering on the door. I now have many bathrooms!
I even had a test for boyfriends prior to continuing any relationship. I ended up nursing two relatives with bowel cancer. Still didn't cure me of my phobia. 😄

For real? What do people with single level houses do?

It’s the smell of urine by the sounds of it, all the standing men.
you could try asking them sit down when peeing?

At least you aren’t this guy OP

😂

Imagine Sitting outside with friends and someone’s taking a dump (with associated noises), then the smell lingers in the drains…

not saying it’s the OP’s fault that their garden was built that way, but tbvh I’d struggle with that.

(But then, I might not buy a house that’s arranged that way…certainly would move the table away from it.)

OP see about getting the soil pipe seen to, then suggest they grow an evergreen bush that’ll screen the window (which needs to be open sometimes) - but really, can’t you be a bit understanding about them not wanting to hear pissing/farting/plopping/grunting noises with their friends there?

Arse, surely. We are British after all.

As I understand it the ops house has been there for years and the neighbours house is a new build so it's the developers fault I suppose.