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AIBU to have been stern with my neighbour’s toddler?

28 replies

keke2605 · 15/05/2025 13:45

Long story short I live in an upstairs flat. My neighbours live below and we have to share one garden.

Every time I take my toddler (nearly 2yo) out the neighbours 3yo daughter comes out.

Each time I’ve been taking him out she goes straight over to him either pulls him hard, grabs him, pushes him or yanks his hair. I always have to move her away or take my son back inside. I always watch over but she does it so quick sometimes.

The family know what she’s like as I’ve mentioned it before. Today I’ve been stern with her and told her to not touch my son and to leave him alone. Her mum came out and said ‘sorry she’s very naughty’ and took her daughter back inside.

I know toddlers will be toddlers but this happens every single time I go out, even when I’m just putting washing out. My toddler isn’t like this. It annoys me and I feel like I have to avoid going in the garden.

OP posts:
EggnogNoggin · 15/05/2025 21:18

LaLoba · 15/05/2025 19:38

You’ve missed the point by a mile. OP’s little boy is being physically hurt by this little girl, and while it’s not the child’s fault her mother is useless, OP’s priority is the wellbeing of her own child. Inviting his bully on play dates is hardly going to be good for him.

She's not a bully, she's 3 and hasn't been taught right from wrong.

OP needs to do something other than avoiding her backyard for the rest of her life.

fedup1212 · 16/05/2025 09:46

DriveMeCrazy1974 · 15/05/2025 16:18

The OP isn't an unpaid childminder you know. It's not up to her to parent somebody else's child just because they don't seem able to. Why would she want to include the little girl who keeps hitting her son? That's ridiculous and not for her to have to sort out!

Erm where did I say it was on the OP to do any of that?!

DriveMeCrazy1974 · 16/05/2025 15:48

fedup1212 · 16/05/2025 09:46

Erm where did I say it was on the OP to do any of that?!

I apologise, when I read this yesterday, it seemed as if you were suggesting that the OP should give her some guidance. Now I read it back, I understand that you didn't suggest that at all. Sorry about that!

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