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To expect the GP to get in touch following a terminal cancer diagnosis and hospital stay for my elderly dad!

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Totallybannanas · 15/05/2025 12:43

We have not had any contact from the GP. I tried calling yesterday to request an update and to ask if the GP could call my dad—ideally to carry out a well-being check and potentially involve the district nursing team. I also need the GP to review and renew a prescription for an out-of-date cream, which the carers need to apply. Additionally, a Do Not Resuscitate (DNR) form still needs to be completed, which I’m surprised wasn’t done while he was in hospital.

When I spoke to the receptionist, I was told there were no available appointments and advised to call back at 8 AM the following day. I tried again but couldn’t get through. I’ve had to push hard with the hospital just to get the discharge reablement team involved so someone can check in on him, as he lives alone and I also have work commitments.

His mental health has deteriorated significantly—he seems like a completely different person. He was once a fit and active 80-year-old, but now he is frail and mentally broken. I’m simply asking for more support and involvement from the medic
al team. He is still mobile and independent, but he has lost confidence. He still has pain due having a oesophagus stent out in, but refusing pain relief. I'm not trained for all this.

OP posts:
Sidge · 20/05/2025 17:27

This sounds like a shit discharge rather than a failure by the GP to be honest. All of what you need should have been put in place prior to discharge.

If they haven’t sent a discharge summary the GP might not even know that he’s been in hospital, let alone discharged again and what the diagnosis is. Some hospital departments are shockingly disorganised.

You should be able to make contact though, certainly for a pain review and to support any communications between GP and community care. If no joy with phone calls or e-consult try writing an email or going in and leaving a message or note. Not ideal I appreciate.

I hope you have some support soon.

Flopsythebunny · 20/05/2025 18:00

It's disgraceful. My surgery rang me weekly for around 8 months after I'd been diagnosed with cancer. It wasn't always a gp, sometimes it was one of the nurses, but they always made sure I had the support that I needed

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