Do you ever lie to your partner, husband etc?

[Yaooo]

I get extremely upset if I know my DP has lied about anything even something small like whether he’s eaten an extra Jaffa cake (anything minor!). But then I know I tell small lies like this too. What’s normal? What’s acceptable? Maybe everyone is different?

If you tell small lies, how can you possibly justify being extremely upset when your DP does the same. I don’t know what is ‘normal’ in terms of partners lying to to each other, but I do know that ‘do as I say, not as I do’ is no way to be in a relationship of any kind.

You can’t have it both ways, angry at him for little white lies but admitting you do the same.

I don’t lie to my husband, I don’t think he lies to me (he is bad at it).

YABU because you admit to doing the exact same thing!

I often tell DH I don't know where something is when I know full well I threw it out.
Eventually he forgets.
He would keep everything forever otherwise.

No, I don’t think I’ve ever lied to DH, about small things or large. And I think you need to do some hard thinking if you lie to your DH but can’t tolerate him doing the same.

I don't know how many small lies are normal, but I do know it's definitely not normal to get 'extremely upset' over a lie about a Jaffa cake, especially when you also lie all the bloody time yourself.

I might neglect to tell him something (accidentally on purpose), but if asked straight out I always tell truth.

I lie about how much is in the savings account.

Theres more than he thinks, but if he knew that he would be more frivolous with his monthly income 🤣

Its only little things like that , that only benefits us

I don’t lie to DH, but I am not always forthcoming with information unprompted.

I lie to my partner sometimes but not about anything that really matters. I think!

If you’re that upset over Jaffa cakes, that’s not healthy and is indicative of a wider relationship issue.

I certainly lie to my DP now and again - not often and not about anything major though.

I think the last time I lied was when I'd accidentally left a downstairs window open all day while we were both out. Later that evening he said 'The kitchen window's open... has it been open all day?!' and I said 'No, I opened it when I went in there just now'. I just didn't want to admit I'd forgotten to shut it, because if I had admitted it, he would worry that I'd forgotten again every time he leaves the house before me; he's that sort of person.

I do occasionally tell a small lie here and there. Along the lines as previously mentioned, not knowing where things are when I know I have binned them. Or not having had the last chocolate bar etc etc. I imagine my boyfriend does similar.

Big things though - absolutely not.

You sound toxic.

I always say 'oh this old thing' when he compliments me on a outfit knowing perfectly well I only got it a week ago 😂

Or if I forgot to buy his favourite beer from the supermarket. When he asks where it is I tell him they didn't have any 😆

Sometimes little white lies are fine, and do no harm, and I am sure he tells me some on occasion to keep the peace. But other than silly little things like this, no we don't lie to one another.

I am very forgetful ( thanks menopause) and if I am asked to do something ie post a letter
ring and book an mot and then asked later if I remembered I have said “ yes of course! “. Then popped to shops for milk and posted letter / booked mot on my way , it’s just to save face so I don’t get a reputation for being flaky as I hate uselessness in others so I’m hard on myself when I forget to do do something
once or twice with a parking ticket - same excuse I’ve forgotten to pay or fluffed up the parking on my phone and so annoyed with myself but it’s my money so I can omit to divulge if I want
can’t think of anything more than that ?

Oh yes I’ve done the “ they didn’t have any “ when I’ve forgotten stuff at the shops

or I couldn’t get through to someone on the phone when I’ve forgotten to ring them

The question you should be asking Op is “Am
I a hypocrite” the answer is Yes!

The lie about the Jaffa cake would bother me too as I have a real issue with lies that make someone else doubt their sense of reality. Some of the other examples on here wouldn't bother me though. I think most/all of us tell small lies occassionally to preserve our image.

It’s an odd thing to lie about. Are you an accusatory type who’d give him grief over the Jaffa cakes rather than laughing and telling him to go and buy another packet, so he lies to avoid the drama?

I presume I must lie sometimes, because everybody lies sometimes, even the people who swear they can’t stand lies and have never said anything untruthful in their entire lives (and tbh I immediately suspect those people of actually being the biggest liars on the planet.)

But broadly, I’m pretty comfortable with the truth even if it makes me look like a dick. I’m quite happy to say that I’m late to meet him because I didn’t leave the house on time rather than make up traffic; and I couldn’t care less that he knows I selfishly ate the last of the Jaffa cakes.

I’ve caught my husband out quite a few times with small lies such as I’ll be searching and searching the house for a certain item and he will have binned it or one of our kids will ask for some chocolate milk etc and he will have drunk it but will watch me search and search the fridge. A good few times I’ve found the packaging in the recycling and I know our kids wouldn’t have known to put it there. Grr! He says I would have “gone mad” if he had owned up but I would rather just know and not search for ages while he watches! Gah!

Yes, Some stuff doesnt concern them... the big thing i lied/lie about was my fertility. I have severe Endo - and have questionable fertilty but not currently totally infertile (waiting on hystorectomy) but i do say i cant have kids as i'm infertile - keeps the "maybe i can change her mind" types at bay. Been throughb that one - and a tryly terrifying pregnancy scare once as the twat slipped the protection, did the whole, maybe you'll be happy schpeel - hell no - it could quite literally kill me so def no - so now i just say im infertile and it keeps that at bay