I am sitting here thinking of something nice to do for my DH on Father's Day because he is a very good husband and father, and he deserves it.
Last year we asked FIL (and MIL) if he would like to join us for a nice meal out, our treat. We don't live too far away from each other. We were quite taken aback by his answer which was thanks, but I prefer to spend Father's Day with my DD and her fiance.
Then we again asked MIL if she wanted to join us on Mother's Day, and we got the same response.
Now, I always knew that my PIL favoured my SIL over my DH, but this has taken it to a whole new level. They don't usually vocalise it, it is more actions.
The way they treat my lovely DH is quite awful and my teen DC think its pretty shitty too. It's also like a vicious circle. They favour SIL, he feels crap and takes a bit of a step back, then they moan that he doesn't pay them enough attention, and he gets put on the naughty step. There is no way I would put up with this kind of manipulation in my own family.
On one hand it is none of my business, but on the other my DH has always has my back and I don't really care who they are, I just don't like seeing him mistreated.
My DH can sort out a card and present (I usually just get 2 of what I am sending my own dad as they have the same hobbies and interests), but I am not doing it. Also, they have blown him off twice now so I don't think he should go begging to be thrown a fish. Send FIL a card, and that's that. I certainly am not making a cake, arranging lunch and anything else for people who treat my DH like crap and spend time with us with a cats bum face, but wont actually say what the f*ck someone has done.
AIBU to say, no they are not ruining Fathers Day again. Have a lovely time with your DD, we will crack on us and the DC doing something fun.