Birthday

[mrsh2025]

Ok so first off will say OH is crap at events.. I do mothers days, Easter, kids/step kids etc I know he is really pants at it so maybe I should be giving him some leeway. So my birthday is in the morning and it’s been made clear hes done nothing, not even a card from what I can tell. I don’t want a row but I’m really pissed off with this I don’t expect a big deal but a card!! We have a shop 1 min down the road. I go so over and above for his days because I love to see him happy I am n/c with all my family and really thought he might have considered something 😢😢

He shouldn’t be rubbish at it though. It’s important to you. Just wanted to wish you happy birthday though, as it’s my birthday tomorrow too! I do have a wee present but I had to choose and buy it myself and provide the wrapping paper…Hope you manage to have a nice day. Do something lovely for yourself if need be x

@marypoppinsreturnshappy birthday lovely I hope you have an amazing day, working here but a little hurt that it’s been forgotten xx

It’s really selfish of him, how hard is it to buy a card and a bunch of flowers? When you go over and above for his. You’ve every right to be annoyed. Hope you have a lovely day.

Happy birthday for tomorrow. Could you maybe give your husband a little “I’m expecting at least a card, something to show an effort even remotely close to what I make”. He should be doing these things regardless if he’s crap or not I think, it’s the effort. I’d be hurt too. You should gift him 5 love language book for his next birthday maybe he’ll understand then 😁 Happy birthday to you both 🙂

I think the answer is in the OP - you do everything and he’s come to expect that he doesn’t need to do anything. Give him more leeway?! F that - he needs the opposite - he needs to be given responsibility for doing some of these jobs so he understands he doesn’t get to sit these things out.

If something is coming up, remind him and say ‘I’ve sorted out the previous family members birthday, I need you to do this one. The date is x so please buy a card and present by then, here are some ideas if you need them…’ and let him do it for a change.