I'm Thinking of Going on Holiday with my New Partner

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I'm in a relatively new relationship and my new partner suggested we go on holiday together. He said he loves the south of France, which sounds great, but he has shown me websites for naturist holiday sites on the Atlantic coast. I suppose my AIBU is would I be unreasonable to go but stay clothed? I'm not prude behind closed doors but this wold be public nudity and new to me.

Would you be comfortable to walk round with him whilst he’s naked among others? You would be unreasonable to go if you weren’t comfortable with it and didn’t want to go but went anyway. Yanbu to say suggest somewhere else

I had not thought of that @Coconutter24 . He's been before as a single man, so he's used to it and I don't want to stop him doing something he likes, so I think I'm ok with that.

How would that even work? If it's a naturist resort I would assume walking round clothed while everyone else was nude would not be allowed within the rules.
Surely you are aware he has highlighted a fundamental difference between the two of you and your attitudes? Are you sure you are actually compatible?

If you don't feel comfortable being naked in public OP, then tell him so, NOW!! Going on holiday together after only a relatively short relationship, can be tricky anyway, without feeling that you've got to get your kit off in front of strangers, if you're not comfortable with it. Communicate your REAL feelings about it with him, before you even consider booking a holiday like this OP.

Odd place to go for a first holiday in a short relationship. He’s probably a pervert testing your boundaries

@Idontcareanymore I don't see it as a fundamental difference, he was open about naturism when we met and we sort of live naturist at his house when I stay there. I've not been naturist in public, so to speak, so considering wearing a bikini, light top sort of thing, not what I'd call fully dressed in jeans, blouse and the like.

Wandering around starkers in your boyfriend's house is whole different ball game than having your kit off in front of a bunch of complete strangers of all different shapes and sizes OP. Have you actually even been topless on a beach before?

I think a lot of people are relaxed about nudity in their own homes.
But you are talking about wearng clothes in a situation where everyone else will be nude. So obviously that is a problem: probably for the other nude people.How are you going to make them feel?

I would do your own research on the resort because sometimes nudity is optional sometimes it’s expected.

Thank you for all your thoughts on this, you really have helped. He assures me it's clothing optional and that most people do go nude, but there are some who wear bikinis or trunks at first and then don't bother when they get used to being around nude people. He said it's up to me what I wear, and not to feel that I need to be naked too. I believe him, so I am leaning towards going and being open minded.