DD is year 3 and 8 years. Her good friend lets call her L, is the same age. They met in the school early years setting when they were 2.
They are both only children and can be best friends most of the time. However, since starting year 3 last September there seems to be an unhealthy pattern where L is unkind in so many different forms to dd.
If dd plays with other friends, L sits alone and makes a big deal out of it and won’t play unless dd steps away from other friends so it’s just the 2 of them; L is then often unkind to dd saying they need to stay together.
There are lots of pairs work set ups and most days, L tells dd she wants to be her partner then at the time goes off with someone else she has arranged to be partners with leaving dd alone.
This week there has been a new issue each day where today, L was going to any friend dd was with and persuading them to go and hide away so dd was left alone. Yesterday L was telling some boys in the class to go to dd and tell her L doesn’t like her which they did.
it sounds like some girls don’t want the drama and are reluctant to be involved so stay away from both dd and L, however one girl who is usually alone has been what sounds like verbally loving what L is doing and saying which seems to have stopped L from making friends with dd by hometime.
I have let this be for all of year 3 and I wonder should I say something to the teacher? Wouldn’t they have enough to do without girls squabbles?
I don’t know the other mom well enough to talk to her.
I worry if I leave it it will get worse and dd is saying she doesn’t want to go to school tomorrow because of L but dd has always loved school and I think L is or was part of that reason.
WWYD??
Thank you
May