To think that using your looks can get you far but it’s what you do with that that matters?

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I learned from my mum at a young age that your looks can be a tool, and in some situations, they can get you places. But it’s always about what you do with that attention and how you navigate it that truly matters.

Has anyone else had similar experiences or views on how looks play a role in life?

Yes I somewhat agree

usually in some work situations and dating

Good looks can definitely open doors and be an advantage. However, there is a ceiling on how far they’ll get you and at some point you have to walk the walk.

Yes OP, everyone else in the world knows this.

Nope. I had a very plain overweight mum (bless her) who taught me quite the reverse and that women who used their looks were all vacuous and stupid and not drawing attention to yourself was key. I wish I'd known what you did as I was bloody stunning when I was younger and I could have used it far more to my advantage!

By the time I'd twigged I was aging and turning into my mother so too late!

Yes, thisnwas my upbringing too. Both mum and dad thought any time or money spent on appearance was wasted and it was all about education and hardwork.

I think I actually benefit from never having relied on my looks now I'm in middle age, but I definitely could have made more of myself when I was younger.

Was brought up by a very vain mother. She was obsessed with looks and image. The house was perfect and we were always dressed nicely however it was all for show. There was no food in the cupboards and were pretty much neglected. She was beautiful and used her looks to get stuff off men. Remember our fridge had broke and one day a man came round and installed a new one. She went out with him for a few weeks before that and then dumped him shortly after the fridge arrived. She even got myself and brother into modelling as children which I hated. Pretty privilege is definitely real. I see it all the time and have probably even done it myself. However I learned pretty young that looks only take you so far. It’s all about personality and your character. I’ve met people who I thought were beautiful over the years but gosh I find most of them dull. I find they’ve never really had to try at life or develop any sense of identity other than being pretty. Don’t get me wrong you can be beautiful and have a good personality but I find that’s very rare. Looks can only take you so far.