Husband’s drinking habits

[Rainyday88]

My husband drinks every day. He sometimes pops to the pub after work and then will buy four cans of cider on week nights, more on weekends. He gets really mad when I suggest possibly having a few nights off the drink a week and tells me it’s his body, he can do what he likes. I’m really worried he’s damaging his health but he seems to think he’s invincible. I can never have a mature conversation with him about it as I just get accused of nagging. Other than this issue, we are happy. Am I being unreasonable here?

I don't know how you could be happy with that OP. He sounds like a defensive alcoholic. I'm sorry for you. My ex husband drank most days and got blackout drunk fairly regularly. I gave him an ultimatum to stop drinking to excess, he didn't. I divorced him and never looked back.

You are wasting your time talking to him. He prioritised drink over you.

that’s a lot if he drinks that every day IMO (although prob in my 20s I drank most days). He must feel at least tired and crabby everyday if not fully hungover. Doesn’t sound like he wants to change tho. I wouldn’t like it. Good luck.

Is he any use when he gets home? Do you have kids? I only ask as I'd assume you're doing all housework and any childcare if he's permanently drinking daily? Has he always done it? How long have you been together? It wouldn't be a life if want.

If he’s not an alcoholic he definitely has a problem with alcohol. It’s affecting his health and his relationship.

My friend finally had enough of her DH drinking too much. She’s divorcing him but she’s 60 and has wasted her life on this loser. Don’t be my friend.

Yes he’s always done it so he says I’m trying to change him and he was brought up like it so basically keep my nose out. We have one child. He’s great mostly with her but will drink in her company which I don’t like but he says all the dads do it so stop nagging. We share things somewhat equally and we both work full time. We’ve been together 11 years.

Why have you put up with it for 11 years? Does he do his share of hands on parenting and household work?

Well, it’s a bit late to expect him to change now. The time to sort this out was 11 years ago, or at least before you had a child.

He’s an alcoholic. A conservative estimate is that he’s drinking 60 units a week. Nhs guidelines are 14 per week. He’ll be looking at serious health consequences in a few years. The tricky thing is he isn’t going to listen to you. You have to make a choi