Children told can't play in netball games

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My child was playing in a netball team outside of school. She was there a year and as she joined some of her friends joined. They created a new team and some girls from another team joined. They weren't a full team but stuck at training for full year, played matches - lost a lot but kept spirits up and enjoyed. More kids joined and they started winning. Then coach left and few kids left. My daughter kept turning up and the two teams they trained with had some others kids leave so decision was made to merge the teams. However that never happened and they've been left not knowing for months. Turns out board decided they shouldn't merge. The other coaches didn't want to take them, and a it was stated they wouldn't be able to play matches with them as they needed to be matched with similar ability. In other words other coaches didn't want them even though they were cancelling matches through lack players. So one by one they have all left.
AIBU to feel that this organisation took our money just the same as other children but they've left this team, now all the children have left. My child had been really upset. Something we joined to boost her self esteem had destroyed it.
Other parents are upset. I'm shocked that it had been managed in such a way. AIBU

This post is very confusing.

Are you saying that there are not enough coaches to go round and your child isn’t good enough to join a better team that does have a coach?

No. This is an organisation that parents pay for. There are no try outs like other teams and it's about community netball. The information stated by their board is neither what they promote or what was told to us as parents. We've paid money the same as other parents to have children be told they are moving into new teams - attend all the training with them which we pay for, to then turn round and say that isn't happening. And no matches will be organised until Winter. So do we just keep paying or leave. Other parents left and are angry. What do you tell your child that they aren't wanted.
The information related is what we've been told. Asking AIBU to be upset.

Sorry I don’t understand this post at all!

I understand op. Sadly private netball teams in this country seem to care more about winning than the children. If your daughter is a natural they will support her and it will be great. If she's not they'll find reasons to drop her rather than focus on training or involving her in other ways.

Kids are culled all the time from netball round here, it’s notoriously cut throat and pretty crappy since it’s kids who suffer.

Other sports seem to be more inclusive and less focused on the win/ being the best. Ask for a refund or inclusion for the rest of the year as you have paid. Maybe look for a different sport for next year or a social netball club.

I presume your child isn't at the standard required to be picked for matches in the other team. So it really depends whether you're happy to continue to pay the subs for training sessions or whether she'd rather leave.

Thanks for reply. I've left team and my daughter was at the standard. She has secured a try out in a harder team. This has been about cherry picking girls were they know each other, nothing per their policies or what they advertise.
I think some replies demonstrate why some netball groups are for children & their development & others about parents that dominate & are no better than bullies in the play ground.
Those that have judged maybe you are one of them.

But how much are you paying? For grassroots kids sport it can't be more than a couple of hundred quid per year for training of a couple of hours per week. Sounds like the team folded when the coaches left. If parents (including you) are going to moan about it rather than step up, then you need to find a more suitable, fun netball club rather than this very competitive one.

I think what you're saying is that there are no spaces left in a team they've chosen the best players so the rest are dropped??
Pretty standard to be fair

What does this mean?
Was she accepted onto another team or not?

How do you know we could step up.
Some parents are lucky they don't work nights or look after ill parents in day. Not every can. What a horrible post

So have you paid for (say) the whole summer term and they're no longer able to go to a netball session?

It's accurate. All the parents were upset and left the club rather than volunteer their own time. Every sports club my DS has been involved in needed parents to step in at some point. I coached kids rugby for 2 seasons 🤷🏻‍♂️, another parent took the team manager role. We didn't complain that we'd paid £120 for the season and we expect x y and z. Thankfully DS got bored at the fun club and wanted to move somewhere more competitive where my very particular set of skills weren't required. Find a club that suits. Everyone deserves to have their needs met, even the competitive ones.

Loads of people happily pay subs for team practice without ever getting picked for the matches. That's quite normal.

If you daughter was at the standard required, they'd pick her to play in matches. She probably just hasn't proved herself to that team yet.

Even if she gets into the new squad that she's trying out for, there's no guarantee she'll be picked for the match team and get to play in matches any time soon.

There's far more involved than just techincal skills, though. Attitude, commitment, behaviour and being a team player are all part of it too.

Over and above child's needs according to you. Over 30 parents are wrong.
And for the record this was not competitive. It was small group wanting it to be but not on merit.
You made the call noone stepped up. Plenty did and left. I could not. Wow. Maybe you think your coaching (nothing to do with this situation) is deserving of Pride of Britain.
Was about the children - not parents or coaches. Obvs you are looking from a filter. I get your views no need to "enlighten" any further

Over 30 parents were lazy

Your posts are oddly combative, op.
Why so aggressive?
Was your Dd picked for another team or not?

I don't think so.
Calling 30 parents who fundraised, umpired, led skill events, drove children etc outside their jobs "lazy" is a bit aggressive.
I think there are some people on here just with their own gripe. AIBU the vote with me.
Just getting hijacked by people who love to jump on anything.