Too sensitive or just naive

[Bumper987]

Every time I put a post on here it doesn’t matter the topic or the stance there is always someone who just seems to want to say something unkind. Is it really me being too sensitive or is it just naivety thinking that I can come and ask for advice from a bunch of strangers and that they will all be kind. I really thought the purpose of mumsnet was to be a supportive community, am I wrong? It sometimes seems like it’s just a punching ground for people to let out their misdirected anger.

I expect so - isn’t that what Be Kind is all about, telling women not to step out of line?

People say aibu brings out rudeness but I look at it like this - if you want really brutal honest truth you post in aibu. Sometimes thats what people are looking for and if that means you're in the wrong then so be it.
If you're looking for a gentler and more balanced conversation, use the specific boards and you'll get far more tailored advice.

If you post on MN asking advice you're going to get the thoughts of strangers who don't know you and have no reason to pander to your sensitivities or make you feel better.

Some might because some people are inherently generous and gentle but many are not.

If you want sympathy and validation I think friends and family might be a better source of that than strangers.

I don't tend to give the type of 'kind', 'gentle' (wishy washy) responses someone like you may prefer to receive.
In RL, I'm blunt, overly direct at times and sometimes sound rude when I don't mean to be.
So, the 'me' that is on MN is a more unfiltered version of the me in RL.
When people ask for others to 'be kind' etc, they seem to only want to hear validating responses that fit their extant internal narrative.