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To go sick even if I have a deadline

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lemondrops4 · 12/05/2025 19:11

I have an autoimmune disease and currently suffering with a flare up and because my immune system is low atm I now have a virus on top. It’s put my fatigue to an extreme level and my body is telling me I need to rest.
it feels that at work there is never a good time to take time off as I always have a deadline for something and have another one imminent so feel guilt taking time
off. At the same time if it’s not this it will be something else and I have powered through before by wfh and not going into the office. I’m wondering if I should just power through again and get it done myself, I can barely think straight at the moment. I haven’t taken time off in a long time so feel I should put myself first for once but can’t escape this feeling of letting everyone down. Im also so sick of feeling like this and hate my illness.

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FionnulaTheCooler · 12/05/2025 19:13

If you're too unwell to work you should take the time off to recover. That's what sick pay is there for.

RentalWoesNotFun · 12/05/2025 19:16

Everyone else in your place has deadlines and presumably they go off sick when they need to.

Sounds like you need more staff and less stress. The workplace is reaping what it sows.

Go off sick if you need to. I hope you feel better soon.

HoskinsChoice · 12/05/2025 19:17

Have you made things worse by powering through in the past? Sometimes just getting on with life is better mentally as it can give you a sense of achievement that, even when things are shit, you still succeeded. On the flipside, if working is going to make you more ill or deliver poor quality work, it's better to take the time you need.

BakelikeBertha · 12/05/2025 20:26

Take the time off you need OP, companies NEVER really appreciate staff like you who power through regardless of how unwell they're feeling, and if you were to die tomorrow, they'd just get someone else to fill your job, so please don't feel guilty, if you're sick, you're sick and that's all there is to it. You're bound to perform better when you're feeling well again.

noctilucentcloud · 12/05/2025 20:41

To give you a different slant on it (as someone with a chronic condition) - if I try and push through I find my work is poor and littered with mistakes (at the time I think it's OK, looking back I'm like oh my goodness), and if I try and push through rather than resting I end up needing much more time off than if I'd just rested up in the first place. This is my way of trying to say if you're ill, you're ill, please don't feel guilty, you may be doing your workplace a 'favour' by realising you need time to recover now rather than making yourself really ill.

Praying4Peace · 12/05/2025 20:47

You are clearly very genuine and committed. You are unwell, please take time off

GreenFressia · 12/05/2025 20:49

Regardless of what you decide I think not having taking time off for a long time is the issue that you need to address.

SillyOP · 12/05/2025 20:50

Will it matter in 6 months time? How about 5 years?

Take the day off, no one is going to write on your gravestone what a trooper you were for the company.

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