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Baby clothes

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Areweoutofthewoodsyetgood · 12/05/2025 19:10

Name changed as I'm on here a lot and a bit paranoid!

Family member and I have both had babies recently. Different genders and new genders to us. So did a clothes swap of some baby bits. Both categorically said we didn't want anything back as last babies.

My little one is growing out of the smaller stuff so I was about to give it away but just thought I'd double check she didn't want it back. Anyway it turns out she does as she has potentially not completely ruled out another baby. Which is fine, neither have we completely and people are entitled to change their mind etc.

But AIBU to be a tiny irritated though as a) None of her stuff is labelled so I'm going to have to try and guess which is hers and I can probably only pick out about half of it.

b) Some of it was frankly quite tatty and I might have potentially already chucked some of it. The other stuff is fine but nothing that special and all pretty well worn.

I get that newborn clothes are sentimental but in which case why not just keep the ones you really liked- which is what I did. They have lots of space and money so that is not an issue!

I am going to give back what I think is hers but AIBU to be mildly annoyed?

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NeonUnicorn · 12/05/2025 20:16

Why don't you just get her to come round and pick out the bits she wants back?

KarmenPQZ · 12/05/2025 20:19

She wants a bag back in case she has another baby. Even if she does it might not be the same gender. Don’t stress about it just keep a bag of anything you want to pass on and give it to her. I doubt she’ll even remember either.

she’s not being unreasonable. Just don’t put tones of thought and effort into it. Everyone knows when they pass stuff on they might not get the same stuff back so anything super precious is kept.

AliBaliBee1234 · 12/05/2025 20:25

Why did you offer it back knowing this?

Areweoutofthewoodsyetgood · 12/05/2025 20:29

KarmenPQZ · 12/05/2025 20:19

She wants a bag back in case she has another baby. Even if she does it might not be the same gender. Don’t stress about it just keep a bag of anything you want to pass on and give it to her. I doubt she’ll even remember either.

she’s not being unreasonable. Just don’t put tones of thought and effort into it. Everyone knows when they pass stuff on they might not get the same stuff back so anything super precious is kept.

She does have a load of clothes for her current baby though so I think she does want particular items we have as they must have sentimental value/ she likes the idea of a future child wearing them. Which is fine but I wish she'd just labelled them! Anyway you are right I will just give her a bag of what I think is hers and not stress!

I think I find the admin of constantly sorting kids clothes into the next size/ what to save etc quite a lot so it's just annoying having to remember which are going back!

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Areweoutofthewoodsyetgood · 12/05/2025 20:30

AliBaliBee1234 · 12/05/2025 20:25

Why did you offer it back knowing this?

Just to be polite and in case she changed her mind (which she did).

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