My husband and I have a 10 month old. He is thriving and such a happy little soul. He is exclusively breastfed so all night feeds are done by me. He’s still a terrible sleep. I’m a stay at home mum and my husband works from home. He takes the time for himself and will have a nap in the day if he’s tired. I don’t get a break. I don’t get to rest but that isn’t ever considered and when I do happen to get a break because I’m unwell it’s for a maximum of 30 minutes and then I’m back on it. When I ask my husband for help he always says “I just have to do this first” or “I’m gonna do this” or he takes ages to actually help me and when he does he moans or says “I’m the one making the money for you and the baby” like he’s throwing it in my face. I’ve said multiple times let’s put baby in daycare and I’ll work too but he doesn’t want that but can’t accept that being a stay at home mum doing all housework and meals and night wakings and every nappy change is a full time job too and he has the audacity to say that I’m not balancing anything and he’s doing all the hard work? Am I being unreasonable in needing help? Should I be able to do it all without help? I feel like a failure. I know he’s working hard for us but I need help. I’m not capable of doing it all, I’m just not wired that way I guess. I’m trying really hard but failing.