Hi all, I would love some opinions on a friendship situation that has been ongoing for several years..
I have been friends with this particular person for over ten years and we used to meet up quite frequently. Over the years it’s become less due to having children and work etc which is understandable. My issue is that this friend will message about arranging a catch up then will often cancel last minute. I have found out in the past that the reason she has cancelled is because she’s had a better offer and gone out with somebody else. Also when we have met up she’s invited someone else along without telling me and more often than not I end up watching the children while they catch up. I’ve distanced myself and as soon as I pull away she messages to arrange a meet up..I respond with dates I’m free then it’s radio silence for months on end. I almost feel as if she is checking that I’m still her friend but she has no intention of meeting up. On the occasions we have met up it’s been great and we get on really well which is why I’ve persevered over the years. I suppose from reading this back to myself I can see that it is probably best to cut her off now but I feel sad about ending things. I guess I just want opinions really and any insight into this behaviour. Is she just using me and is it time to cut her off? Please be kind, thank you