Sorry it's a long one....
Bit of background, my mum suffers badly with her mental.health, it was hard growing up with as I always felt I was walking in eggshells. My dad does anything for an easy life so won't telling her when shes being unreasonable.
I also suffer with depression and I'm awaiting an autism and ADHD assessment.
So recently my husband and I took our car to a garage owned by a friend of my brother, they did the repair but then lit failed within a few days, took it back and they redid it, just over a month later it failed again. We took it back again and they tried to blame our driving so we told them not to repair it and we would take it elsewhere for a second opinion. They weren't happy with that and refused to release the vehicle, when we finally got it back it was in peices. We got it to a new garage eventually and they said the work was awful, it cost us £2000 to have it properly repaired. Looking at online reviews we aren't the only ones this happened to, we had just trusted them as they were a family friend. Because of the amount of money we lost etc we decided to take them to court. We purposefully didn't discuss anything to do with the whole thing with my brother as we didn't want him to feel he had to take sides.
A couple of times I thought about dropping the case die to stress and because of my brother but my parents convinced me that what the garage had done was so bad that we should follow through with it.
We went to court and the judge said that there wasn't enough evidence either way and threw the case out. Tbh I was just glad it was over with.
The next day after the case we popped in to see my parents who wanted to know how it went and they were outraged about the way it had gone and they said they would never use that garage again and had told everyone they know not to use them as well. At almost exactly the same time my phone rang and so did my dad's. I answered mine and it was horrific my son had a major mental health crisis and had tried to take his own life at school (in his words so me and his dad wouldn't be the ones to find him). A teacher had intervened and he was safe but obviously it was the most horrible thing to hear, we raced straight to school and started dealing with everything for my son. His mental health had been low recently and he was struggling with some bullies. My sole focus has been my son and I haven't had time to think about much else. My husband had been a bit off but I put it down to the stress of what had happened.
Anyway this weekend I said to dh let's pop in and see mum and dad and let them.know how ds is doing etc (i was worrying about my mums mental health as well). Dh said no we can't today your brother is going over for sunday lunch. I said well if we pop over after they've eaten ds can see his uncle who he's close with. Dh got all funny and I asked what was going on. The phone call my dad got at the same time as me was my brother, his mate had gone straight to his the second the case was over and gone on about how shit me and dh were. My brother had rung my dad and without knowing anyrhing other than what his mate had just told him, called me and dh liars and scammers and that our car was fine and we just wanted free money. Dh overheard the conversation and my dad asked him not to say anything to me while I dealt with ds. To a certain extent I understand them not wanting to pile on me but it left dh dealing with the stress of ds and hiding something from me which was also upsetting him. So all this came out and I was angry and upset. Out of anger I did message my parents and said I was pissed off that they asked dh to lie to me and to not tell my brother to speak to us and atleast hear our side. My parents have completely ignored that message and I've not heard a word from them (they didn't even message to see how my sons mental health appointment went or to wish him luck in his exams this week). I had a missed call from my mum yesterday and I felt hope, I was in the middle of something so I messaged and said sorry I'm busy ill ring you back in an hour all.i got back.was 'sorry i meant to ring your dad'. I spent all evening in tears but I refuse to reach out to them. The last time my mum acted this way I apologised to keep the peace but I can't keep doing it (last argument my mum was drunk and we got in a argument, she tried to get in the car to leave and my brother stood in front of the car to stop her driving drunk and she drove at him). I got blamed for arguing with my mum when I know she has bad mental health and in my dad's words 'it's always my fault when my mum gets like this'. I apologised for that one and all the other times before when shes been unreasonable and my dad excuses her behaviour. And Im sick of it now. AIBU to just wait and see if my parents reach out to me.