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To just be really tired

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crimblecrumble3 · 11/05/2025 22:29

A pointless vent really. I work 22 hours a week over 3 days so not even a full time job! But on my days off I’m with my toddler all day while my older dc is at school and the days consist of trying to entertain her while also getting stuff done around the house. Weekends are taken up with eldest dc activities so there isn’t much of a break there.

My toddlers sleep still isn’t great and the toughest thing is we have no family help whatsoever so haven’t had a full nights sleep or a night off in almost 3 years. I am constantly on the go - can’t even get the ironing done without toddler crying for me or wanting something.

Dh is good, he maintains the garden and does his fair share of housework, cooking and school/nursery runs. I know compared to some people who have more kids or work more hours or do it alone I am probably lucky. I don’t know why I’m struggling so much.

I would absolutely love to have a week where I could just have some time to myself while dd is at nursery. I don’t have enough annual leave to cover that though. I often dream about just puttering or getting on with some projects in the house that there’s just never any time for.

Is it just me? I just feel frazzled and burnt out. My diet is shit because I’m not organised enough to plan meals ahead. I can’t remember when I last had a hair cut as I’m either working or have a toddler in tow. Ugh.

OP posts:
xmasdealhunter · 11/05/2025 22:33

Could you afford to put your dd into nursery for another half day, so you at least had a little time to yourself?

crimblecrumble3 · 11/05/2025 22:35

I would love to but we are stretched as it is. Maybe when she gets her 3 year funding we could consider it.

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Wolfiefan · 11/05/2025 22:38

Can DH do one night a week? Surely the whole weekend doesn’t need to be DC activities?

SillyQuail · 12/05/2025 10:30

We have a similar set up and I normally get one afternoon at weekends "off" to either go out and do my own thing, or DH takes the kids out and I stay in and potter. We also alternate bedtimes so each of us gets an hour or so "off" in the evening every other night. I also discovered I was anaemic which was making me extremely tired all the time, much better now I'm taking high dosage iron supplements

Redpeach · 12/05/2025 10:32

Could you fit on some exercise to get your fitness and energy levels up

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