ExDP swearing at 6 year old?

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DS goes to ExDP for 1-2 nights per week.

DS left me a voicemail when I was asleep last night and was crying saying that daddy had sworn at him. You can then hear ExDP take the phone and say he is being silly.

DS explained today, that they were at a party and he got upset when it was time to leave. ExDP called him a little shit and said “fucking hell”.

This isn’t the first time he has sworn at or around DS when he’s cross with him.

I am so sick of it and hate the thought of DS being treated this way when he’s away from me.

I have already spoken to ExDP about this in the past, yet he continues.

AIBU to make a fuss about this? I don’t want to overreact.

My ExH regularly calls my son a dickhead and swears at him. My solicitor didn’t think there was a lot we could do about this. I’m interested to hear other people’s thoughts.

It’s vile and damaging. What kind of coward swears at a 6yo and calls them names?

Does your son want to see him? Does he spend quality time with him when they are together? Care for him, feed him properly, read him a story at night?

If not and the contact is not beneficial to your son then consider reducing time, stopping overnights. Would this idiot go to court?

I don’t know what the answer is OP or @Nametobechanged but if you aren’t already, document everything. Mention to school that your child is struggling so if they notice a change in your child’s behaviour at school like a clear pattern they can maybe back up and advocate for them. My children’s schools were brilliant and so supportive of them when they were dealing with their father and contact with him.

It’s honestly appalling that if you are in an adult relationship with someone who verbally abuses/berates you, you have every right to leave (it might be hard to but the law is on your side). Children don’t have the right to say “no I’m not putting up with that, I won’t have contact with verbally abusive parent anymore or until they stop mistreating me”.