Supervising baby after alcohol consumption

[BeenzManeenz]

Do you think it's acceptable for someone to supervise a 13 month old after having drunk 4 pints of beer?

I asked my OH if he would consider it fine to drive after 4 pints and he said no. Which to me suggests a level of impairment where he shouldn't look after our DS on his own. However he's made me feel I'm overbearing and controlling.

My view is that no amount of alcohol is okay when bathing or supervising a very small child. Maybe people think thats extreme, but it makes me feel uncomfortable.

AIBU??

No I wouldn’t let someone look after my baby after 4 pints of beer.

4 pints sounds like too much. I wouldn’t worry about 2. Depends on timing/tolerance.

I can’t believe anyone thinks this is okay. Absolutely not. I totally agree with you.

I think you just hit the nail on the head with the comparison of being too intoxicated to be road safe so too intoxicated to be childcare safe. But people are hard to convince that they aren't incapable after a few drinks.

Depends also over what time frame, 4 pints over 4 hours is quite different to over 1 hour!

Presumably you have known your partner long enough to know what they are like once they have consumed 4 pints. I couldn’t look after a child if I’d drunk that much but by I’m sure my DH would be ok.

It depends on his tolerance level and over how long the alcohol was drank, what the person had to eat etc. Driving is irrelevant. Anyone who is swaying, or whose vision is off, shouldn't be carrying a child. I was widowed and would still have a drink at home. The most common reason to take a child to A&E, from home, vomiting, suspected broken bone, would mean it would be best to call a taxi.

It depends how much, over how long, what his tolerance is, etc etc.

After four pints consumed over an hour, I’d be reluctant to look after a 1 yo. However, four pints over two hours, I’d have no problem with my bf doing so; he drinks significantly more, is larger, and has a much higher tolerance.

It was 4 pints in under 2 hours, no food consumed beforehand either. Which doesn't help.

For me it depends on some things. It depends on whether the environment is safe for the child, or whether they need actively watched. A sleeping 13 month old in a sleep safe cot in a comfortable temperature room will still be safe if their adult doesn’t come immediately. A wide awake 13 month old playing with button batteries on the other hand, absolutely not. It also depends on who else is around. If it’s a gathering of a few people at at least one is sober, then even if they’re not in direct supervision of the child they can be relied upon in an emergency. It depends on the drinker - whether they are totally smashed after 4 pints or just a bit merry.

so I’d say if the scenario is a dinner party at the parent’s house, the child is asleep and a merry adult has parental responsibility in a group of other people experienced with children and including one sober person I say it’s okay.

Situation was the baby was awake, needed bathing and putting to bed. My OH would have been the only adult in the house as I was due to go out (ended up not doing so, of course).

So very much not a situation where someone else completely sober would have been present. I'd have been okay with that.

Particularly I have issue with anybody under the influence doing bathtime, it just seems dangerous.

I agree with you about 4 pints.

I don’t agree with you about any alcohol at all. Sensible drinkers can have a glass of wine with a meal and be perfectly fine to look after a baby. I say this as an ex-drinker.

This is an awful situation. Your OH was meant to look after the baby so you could go out but instead, drunk 4 pints and you had to cancel?
That tells you a lot about him.