Am I wrong?

[Myhubbyisadickhead]

Found out last night that my DH allowed our DD to drive our fairly powerful car up the residential street despite us discussing it several times previously and saying she couldn't. She's had 5 lessons and is not insured. There's loads of parked cars and imo anything could have gone wrong. I've gone ballistic. With both of them. Now this morning he's defending his actions saying she kept asking me (she has me too all week and I said no) and she was actually a good driver. Car is automatic and so easier to drive so this apparently makes it ok. DD says everyone's parents do it apart from. Am I overreacting?

No your not overreacting. A friend of mine drove without insurance just before she was about to take her test, she hit another car, got caught and got a 3 year ban for driving without insurance.

They might both benefit from checking this out too.

https://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/1988/52/section/143

(1)Subject to the provisions of this Part of this Act—

(a)a person must not use a motor vehicle on a road [F2or other public place] unless there is in force in relation to the use of the vehicle by that person such a policy of insurance F3... as complies with the requirements of this Part of this Act, and

(b)a person must not cause or permit any other person to use a motor vehicle on a road [F4or other public place] unless there is in force in relation to the use of the vehicle by that other person such a policy of insurance F5... as complies with the requirements of this Part of this Act.

So she's driving uninsured - that's a great start to her driving future! How will she get insured when she passes her test if anything happens and it comes out that she has done this?

He is being totally stupid and needs a kick up the pants.

If it makes you feel any better I have had a similar number of lessons and am being taken out on the road by my instructor. If you think she can’t drive that’s another matter
edit: I missed she was uninsured

Completely irresponsible in every way and DH has made it worse by not setting clear boundaries. This was a lesson in respecting the rules (no, LAWS) of the road.
DD is young, impulsive and capable of making very poor decisions at that age, it comes with the territory. That’s why setting clear boundaries is so important with such an important thing as road safety and DH has failed in his parenting spectacularly. He’s sending the message that if Dad breaks the law with “minor” offences, then I guess it’s all okay and everyone does it. Will he feel the same when she passes and is under peer pressure to commit other “minor” offences when he’s not there? Or as a passenger in a friend’s car who also commits “minor” offences? Where’s the line for this exactly? Is one or two units of alcohol over the limit “minor”? Is speeding okay on certain roads or when it’s “only” 10mph or 15mph over? I guess taking your eyes off the road briefly to send a text is also pretty minor?
I probably feel particularly passionate about this because I do know young people who have lost their lives in accidents and seen the impact on their families. And conversely, completely innocent people who have lost their lives due to just moments of stupidity on someone else’s part. Road safety is a non-negotiable to me and personally if after having words with both of them I was to find out this had happened again then I would report them both to the police myself. DD could hate me for that all she wants, but it’s my job to keep her safe and try to raise her to be a responsible member of society.