To think if you’re chatting on an online dating app…

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You should ask a question, not just make statements about yourself?
I just stop talking to anyone who doesn’t ask a question. It seems really ignorant to me and not a good sign about how interested they are.
but this does exclude a surprisingly high number of men.
AIBU?

You’re making it harder for yourself if you’re that brutal. It’s difficult on OLD. Asking questions is generally expected but picking up on a comment made then continuing the conversation is equally acceptable. If they only talk about themselves and never ask about you, then of course you stop it.
Doesn’t sound like you’re in a very positive frame of mind to connect with people so perhaps take a break?

Agree it can be sooo difficult with some matches - I just give up and move on! They’ll work out why they’re single eventually 😂

I like this 2QS method from alittlenudge on Insta:

2QS: two questions and a statement

You try to engage in conversation with someone on a dating app by asking a question. They simply respond to the question without asking you anything back. You try one more question. They respond again. Now you simply respond with a statement.

Check out Burned Haystack Dating method. It’s not on you to teach them either!
I agree. It’s utter rubbish !

I would move on from people who weren't good at making conversation, but not necessarily expect that to mean asking questions. They should definitely show an interest in some form though.

Tbf I think often it’s their way of letting the conversation come to an end naturally instead of ghosting/telling you they don’t feel a vibe. If they’re interested enough they’ll ask questions. (Or they’re just socially inept - definitely a few of them around too!)

So how many have you moved on from? I presume you are happy to keep on going from one to the next

For me being a good conversationalist in the messages is really important. I definitely stop contributing to the energy when they are bad at messaging.

BlondiePortz I can’t put a number on it but not many. I’m fairly new to it all and have mixed feelings about it anyway.

(HeatedBlanketAllYear you might be right!)

It just seems really inept to me to be chatting but not to provide a way of continuing the conversation. I know in face-to-face chat we don’t necessarily ask questions all the while but in the artificial environment of the dating app, it seems odd not to.

RachelGreep87 I’m going to try what you suggest.