DH is unhappy that I’m on the sofa watching bargain loving Brits in the Sun then being active

[ThePunnyPeachDuck]

Now day dreaming about ditching him and the kids to run a bar in Spain 😂

I'd tell the idiot that says that, that everyone is entitled to a break. I don't understand people who have to be 'performing' all the time.

I've been to the gym, dropped my daughter to club and bar washing (the machine will) some sheets; I'm doing sweet eff all for the rest of the day .

Sounds fair enough! Everyone needs a break for their own stuff! There does seem to be an expectation from many that family time has to take priority though . Hope you have a lovely day.

I read the OPs post properly. It was the follow up comment about ‘if it was a MAN’ I don’t understand and still don’t.

The OP said ‘being active’ not ‘helping with parenting / kids / housework.’ Some people are like that (my dad was actually!) - always had to be doing something and saw not doing anything as a sign of slothfulness.

I think stating that the thread would be different ‘if it was a man’ is both argumentative and irrelevant .

As I said, opinions vary. You consider it irrelevant. I don't.

Absolutely. Despite it being 2025 there is a strong double standard that still sees women typically shouldering more of their share of family and domestic related responsibilities. For this reason women will often support other women to relax when they have the chance. Is there a reason that isn't something you can see happening without making it about men?

We aren't in a position to know the dynamics of the OP's particular situation and what the expectation of family time is. I simply pointed out that in general it's reasonable to apply the same expectations of engagement to both sexes.

In any case I expect the programme has finished now and the OP and her husband are engaged in activities which suit them both.

Exactly why I love being single

What started out as a bit of fun.. by the OP.. has turned into a childish argument.
Grow the F up.
( OP l love that programme) enjoy.

I agree it's reasonable to expect the same standard of engagement from both sexes. However, where this is not the case, its not typically women who are disengaged while men pick up the slack, is it? So I'm curious why you feel the need to fight men's corner on this particular issue.

Well said, went a bit nuts 😆

The OP has only given us a snapshot of the day and their life. Bargain Loving Brits lasts for an hour. If OP has been looking after the kids and been doing some washing before she sat down, and is going to crack on with family stuff after, that is very different from the posts about men who on Saturday watch football for hours, then go out to play it, then go to the pub and don't come home until well after the kids bedtime then repeat on Sundays.

The OP's post was literally one line and one line only which said:

"Now day dreaming about ditching him and the kids to run a bar in Spain"

I'm not fighting men's corner. I'm pointing out a differing standard as I see it.

As I said, I'm sure now the programme is over they'll be getting on with their lives as it suits them. I just felt that the "tell him to fuck off" response that was developing didn't seem fair.

If that was the case though it's unlikely her partner would be huffing that she was watching tv. Sounds to me like this may be something OP does a lot and he is getting annoyed.

Anyone who feels the need to come onto a light hearted thread and yap 'double standards' in a Pavlovian response to the slightest suggestion of a woman benefitting is clearly motivated by their desire to fight men's corner. My only point was, you don't need to do it here, the men are winning already.

I've been polite in responding to the criticism I've received. Your response to me and use of the word "yap" would indicate that you have a problem extending the same courtesy to others. Have a pleasant afternoon.

I wish I could do this. It feels wrong to be watching tv in the day. It's odd because the minute it is dark I'm fine watching any old crap. The only time I did it and enjoyed it was when I was recovering from an op and had to sit on the sofa for a fortnight. It was joyous. I watched several.series of MAFS 😀

This is why I love being single!

If you’re going to imply sexism is disadvantaging men then people will in essence call that nonsense.

Actually it reminds of the sort of obtuse ‘white lives matter’ ‘why isn’t there a men’s day’ ‘well men are killed from domestic abuse TOO’ comments we all know and love.

Oh please. The chances are the OP will have done far more domestic labour than her partner and is probably due a sit down. I hate all these bullshit comparisons. It’s so lazy. Just admit you hate women and move on.

I see there's a lot of interpreting of my comment going on. As I said, how you choose to interpret what I said is your responsibility.

Yes, you're right, that wasn't polite. I apologise. The word fits with my sense of it a being Pavlovian response, but I shouldn't have used it when directly responding to another person.

Thank you.