Yesterday my dh came back from collecting something from marketplace and loudly announced to me and his mum that he’d been so long because the traffic along the high street was bad and also he’d been to see an ex colleague of his.
This ex college of his lives in our town. Before she left, she had lots of problems at work and it was my partners role as a manager to help her through it. He talked about her a lot during this period and tbh it began to make me a little uncomfortable. He also did things like look for cars for her online and send her car recommendations. At the time I sort of questioned it, I think something like ‘could her dp not help her with that?’ But he said he just likes doing it, which he does. But hasn’t done it for anyone else except his dad and me, as far as I’m aware. So I thought that was a bit odd, but I was pregnant at the time and possibly a tad hormonal, and then she left anyway, so I didn’t think about it again after that.
But 6 months on, he’s popped in to see her (it was close to where he was collecting the thing from apparently). But he has literally never in all the time I’ve known him popped in to see an ex colleague or a friend (He doesn’t have many friends outside of his family, which is fine) so it felt a little… odd.
Im postpartum, so still possibly (definitely!) a bit hormonal and I’m trying hard to tell myself that I just need to trust him. It just feels off- talk me down!