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May be offered a perm position at a teaching job from September but it’s a 55 mins drive each way

120 replies

Sk999 · 09/05/2025 23:26

I’ve been the many schools and don’t easily like most places, not over the moon here either but I’ve come to know that there is no perfect place really.

I started as supply end of March and can continue as perm from September. Bit the distance is far, doable but I’m losing almost 19 hours a week travelling.

The point here is me and husband are planning to try for baby next Christmas and if it did happen I can get maternity pay and if I was very unwell I could have paid time off etc.

Then I would also be off for a year and could go back 3 days. Has anyone ever gone back 3 days to a school that was this far ? I think that is the hope that I will eventually go 3 days meaning I stay home 4 days and only travel 3 days.

OP posts:
Fourteenandahalf · 11/05/2025 03:11

My commute is 1 hour each way. I work FT with two children. I leave at 3.40 most days, 4.45 when it's a meeting day. It's not a big issue at all.

Potnoodly · 11/05/2025 07:52

Fourteenandahalf · 11/05/2025 03:11

My commute is 1 hour each way. I work FT with two children. I leave at 3.40 most days, 4.45 when it's a meeting day. It's not a big issue at all.

You must be shattered by the weekend!

Fourteenandahalf · 11/05/2025 07:53

Potnoodly · 11/05/2025 07:52

You must be shattered by the weekend!

Haha yes but I don't know if that's the job or the two little children! Curse of teaching a subject that isn't offered at many schools.
Benefit is that I never bump into children or parents outside of school.

Meredusoleil · 11/05/2025 08:24

NRTFT but I worked FT for 2 years at a school an hour's drive away after I got married. Then got pregnant with dd1 and took a year off for mat leave. Then went back 3 days a week, which was more manageable with the commute.

Eventually, the 1 hour started to become closer to 1h15/1h30 on the way home due to road works etc (London traffic) and after more than 10 years of doing that, I finally found a school closer to home (under half an hour drive).

I can't tell you the difference it has made to my mental health! I did have to take a small pay cut, but have saved money on petrol. The time gained is the biggest benefit that has no price!

Surely there are loads of teaching jobs around atm and you could find something closer to home?

OfTheNight · 11/05/2025 08:33

Factor in open events, nativity, parent’s evenings etc.

I was a secondary teacher when I had DS, I did 3 days when I went back. This is only my experience, but it was clear my school begrudged me being part time, I got a lot of crap from other staff. I couldn’t go for ant promotions.

Plus the guy I shared my week with had an awful time. He was new to teaching and the kids did not respond well to him. Sharing the marking etc was very difficult. I still took lots of work home.

Meredusoleil · 11/05/2025 08:45

OfTheNight · 11/05/2025 08:33

Factor in open events, nativity, parent’s evenings etc.

I was a secondary teacher when I had DS, I did 3 days when I went back. This is only my experience, but it was clear my school begrudged me being part time, I got a lot of crap from other staff. I couldn’t go for ant promotions.

Plus the guy I shared my week with had an awful time. He was new to teaching and the kids did not respond well to him. Sharing the marking etc was very difficult. I still took lots of work home.

Same here, when I had dd1 I taught secondary. I remember saying to people it was career suicide going PT.

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 11/05/2025 08:56

Fruitbat99 · 11/05/2025 02:30

How does 1 hour 50 mins = 19 hours a week?

Pretty easy to work out. 110 minutes there, (1 hour 50 minutes) and the same time to get back = 220 minutes (3 hours and 40 minutes travel a day.) Multiply that by 5.

That's 1100 minutes of travelling in a week. That's almost 19 hours!

(Actually it wasn't that easy to work out, and I did need a calculator!)😆

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Meredusoleil · 11/05/2025 09:01

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 11/05/2025 08:56

Pretty easy to work out. 110 minutes there, (1 hour 50 minutes) and the same time to get back = 220 minutes (3 hours and 40 minutes travel a day.) Multiply that by 5.

That's 1100 minutes of travelling in a week. That's almost 19 hours!

(Actually it wasn't that easy to work out, and I did need a calculator!)😆

.

Edited

Didn't the OP say 55 minutes each way? So that's 1h50 there and back each day x5 makes 9h10m no?

MightAsWellBeGretel · 11/05/2025 09:03

This is a perfectly normal commute time!

Namechange3747 · 11/05/2025 09:28

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Namechange3747 · 11/05/2025 09:29

Stremingservice · 10/05/2025 11:04

Mine is 35 mins driving which isn't much but it equates to 52 miles on the car each day. That soon adds up in fuel, mileage depreciation on my car, extra insurance costs due to the mileage and also looking at 2 services on the car each year due to the mileage instead of one. I love the me time,radio and podcasts on my drive but I'd rather spend my money on something else.

We'd all rather spend money on things other than commuting to work though. But each individual has to weigh up the pros and cons of a particular job.

When DH and I used to work in London (and not in particularly high-paid jobs), we spent nearly £1k a month between us on train fares, which was more than our mortgage.

We no longer work in London and our commuting costs are minimal (and we have more flexibility around family life), but that's weighed up against less prestige, fewer (if any!) chances of promotion and lower job stability.

howshouldibehave · 11/05/2025 09:49

Bit the distance is far, doable but I’m losing almost 19 hours a week travelling.

How? 55 minutes there and back again every day for 5 days doesn't add up to 19 hours?

Then I would also be off for a year and could go back 3 days.

I wouldn't count on it...what if they say no?

We are very lucky with parents, his parents actually live 7 mins away from this school and mine are on the way although it would delay me by 20 mins or so - I leave at 7:20 in mornings - I would probs have to leave 7 am instead.

Do they want to do childcare from 7.30am instead the morning though?

MimiGC · 11/05/2025 11:05

If the current job is in Inner London, is driving feasible/tolerable when you take into account the congestion charge, traffic holdups, parking availability, etc?

CutFlowers · 11/05/2025 11:19

Is there is a minimum period you have to work before qualifying for enhanced maternity pay? Everywhere public sector I have worked (not teaching) - it is 2 years. I agree that commuting as a parent is a bit of a pain - particularly when you have school aged children but not so bad if the other parent works locally.

Fruitbat99 · 11/05/2025 11:28

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 11/05/2025 08:56

Pretty easy to work out. 110 minutes there, (1 hour 50 minutes) and the same time to get back = 220 minutes (3 hours and 40 minutes travel a day.) Multiply that by 5.

That's 1100 minutes of travelling in a week. That's almost 19 hours!

(Actually it wasn't that easy to work out, and I did need a calculator!)😆

.

Edited

Well not when they've said its 55mins so 1 hour 50 round trip. 👍

howshouldibehave · 11/05/2025 11:45

Pretty easy to work out. 110 minutes there, (1 hour 50 minutes)

@LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway

But it's not 110 minutes there, is it?!

Sk999 · 13/05/2025 19:42

Meredusoleil · 11/05/2025 08:24

NRTFT but I worked FT for 2 years at a school an hour's drive away after I got married. Then got pregnant with dd1 and took a year off for mat leave. Then went back 3 days a week, which was more manageable with the commute.

Eventually, the 1 hour started to become closer to 1h15/1h30 on the way home due to road works etc (London traffic) and after more than 10 years of doing that, I finally found a school closer to home (under half an hour drive).

I can't tell you the difference it has made to my mental health! I did have to take a small pay cut, but have saved money on petrol. The time gained is the biggest benefit that has no price!

Surely there are loads of teaching jobs around atm and you could find something closer to home?

Edited

Maybe, the truth is - because I could not make up my mind- I did not speak to them, I had a day of today and was feeling poorly - I saw they posted the job online. Although they sent another email out to all staff asking if anyone would like to discuss the role, so maybe they are trying to see if me or anyone else would go for it. I think I’m just going to leave it. Either find somewhere closer. Or worse ways just long term supply… which most won’t give me benefit of maternity when I need it and sick pay. I guess all happens for a reason.

OP posts:
Superhansrantowindsor · 13/05/2025 22:22

I have a 50 minute commute to my teaching job but I work part time. It’s perfectly doable for me.

Sk999 · 14/05/2025 06:20

Superhansrantowindsor · 13/05/2025 22:22

I have a 50 minute commute to my teaching job but I work part time. It’s perfectly doable for me.

If you were doing that journey everyday? Do you work 2 or 3 days a week?

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Superhansrantowindsor · 14/05/2025 20:10

I do four days.

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