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What age toddlers can tell you about their day if you ask them .. what did you today ? Or what are you doing ? My girl just turned 27 months and she can answer the latter ( not often though ) . I can’t find it anywhere on milestones

27 months? So just over 2 years old then!
for goodness sake, give your head a wobble - she’s still so young, don’t be ridiculous with your expectations

For goodness sake.. Give your head a wobble and don't be so rude.

I wouldn't worry about it as a milestone. I cant really remember whether or not my sons could answer this at 27months, but now my eldest is 8 and wouldn't answer "what did you do today?" with anything other than "dunno" or "can't remember".

"What did you do today?" is so broad so as to be meaningless for many children, especially a 2yo. They need more context to understand what you are asking them.
If you want to find out about their day at nursery, you are better off narrowing the questions down to something more specific, like
Who did you sit next to today at lunchtime? (are they nice, did you eat the same...)
Did you play inside or outside? (what did you play, was it fun, did anyone else play that game with you...?)
Did you sing any songs this morning? (What songs did you sing, do you like the song, did you dance, are there actions...?)

My youngest daughter is 17 and still can’t answer ‘what did you do today?’ with anything other than ‘stuff’ or ‘I dunno’.

and that’s 17 years. Not months.

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It's okay OP, my DD is 168 months and can now answer these questions. Your 27 month old will grow out of it.

The thing is she doesn’t answer those questions either if I narrow them down . She doesn’t go to nursery but she goes out with her dad and I try and ask her 😒

Please try not to worry OP, just enjoy time with your child. We don’t need to compare ourselves to others, just let her be young. I say that as someone who used to sit and research at what age children do what - all it did was bring me misery. Both my children are absolutely fine (late teens/teens now) and no one gives a toss at what age they did what. No one cares what or how I fed them back then, no one cares when they walked or talked or climbed a tree, or didn’t.

This is so true !!!!!! Thank you for your words 🙂and I feel miserable because I don’t know if I am doing something wrong and this constant pressure of having to feed her veggies at every meal everyday , making sure she has lots of fruits . I just can’t keep up

At that age DD could barely talk (and only I could understand her anyway) , much less answer questions like that. Then I had years or “first we did the register, then….” which was a bit much tbh. We’ve managed to strike a balance now she’s 13.

I remember that feeling well OP - I always felt judged by everyone but I do think it was mainly my mind playing games on me. Just keep doing your best for your child and try to enjoy it - they grow up so quick. If people comment just say “thank you for sharing, but our way works for us”, say that repeatedly and then change the subject. People will learn to butt out. I regret every minute I spent worrying because my two turned out ok and I did the best I could.

Our 142 months old still gives me a blank stare and answers "well, we had lunch!".

Yup my 10 year old still can’t answer ‘how was your day’. I now just pick her up from school and give her a full stream of my own day, what I had for lunch, who I spoke to on the phone, etc etc. sometimes she chimes in and sometimes she doesn’t. But I’m a firm believer in modelling the behaviour I want to see!

She also does pretend reading because she knows her favourite books by heart by now after reading them so many times . She attempts to read them herself but still comes out as jargon

Around the age of 2, can the child understand simple questions and instructions like: “Where’s your hat?” or “What’s the boy in the picture doing?”

Around the age of 3, can the child show that they understand action words by pointing to the right picture in a book. For example: “Who’s jumping?”
Understand simple questions about ‘who’, ‘what’ and ‘where’ (but generally not ‘why’).

3-4 year olds:
Understand a question or instruction that has two parts, such as: “Get your coat and wait at the door”.
Understand ‘why’ questions, like: “Why do you think the caterpillar got so fat?”

Thank you xx she understands those two but if I ask her where did you go with daddy today ? She can’t answer

If I ask her where’s your teddy ? She gets up and get it but she doesn’t answer like “ it is on the table “

If I ask her “ do you want toast or yogurt ? She repeats the “ toast or yogurt “ bit ? She can’t make a choice between two options