All the emotions after NC with DH’s family

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Ww have had 20 years of disrespecting our boundaries, emotional manipulation, heartache and problems. After a really long period of the silent treatment from DH’s mother and sisters, we have talked to our children and decided it ends here. I am no longer interested and neither are our children (almost all teens). Unsurprisingly they say they don’t feel they’re missing much as their relationships with them felt uncomfortable and surface level.

All our phones and social media are locked down. They can’t contact us anymore. I’ve felt every emotion over the past few days and now I’m drained! Relief, anger, guilt , fear, frustration. I’ve suppressed so much in order to maintain a relationship for DH and the children’s sake. But this last few months I’ve realised they don’t care about our DC, or the damage they’ve caused. DH doesn’t feel he can ever have a relationship with them again. It could have been so different. I can’t get over how they can let go of our brilliant children.

Tbh, if they are too toxic for you, they’re too toxic for kids. It’s a relief they’re not bothered

they’re probably cutting the kids off to punish you anyway

process the feelings, allow yourselves to feel all of the feelings and then breathe and let go.

this awful sick feeling will pass. It’s the fear, obligation and guilt talking.

it’s also not you at fault, it’s them.

Anger and frustration too. And they’ll never learn the extent of the heartache they’ve caused because I don’t want to give them anything else to talk about. There’s no accountability there anyway.