To think parents have stopped parenting on public transport?

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If I see another child swinging from a pole on the tube/ standing on seats on the train / iPhone blasting on a bus I swear I’m going to go absolutely bonkers!!

and this is every single social group / ethnicity

I had to tell a child today to sit down and stop swinging off the pole on the tube as if the break slammed on (often does) they’d be dropping on to me and my baby. The mum was laughing as they were messing about- whole carriage staring and she was oblivious.

i was brought up in ex army style way and I admit I’m a stickler for my kids being extra polite and following social code- but I’d rather be strict than have this!

is it just a London issue or are kids feral on public transport anywhere else? Half term is the absolute worse I avoid it like the plague.

Also would you tell someone else’s child to stop doing something that was potentially going to hurt you? Or am I a meany!

I’ve seen far worse behaviour from adults on public transport.

Of course I would.

Funnily enough there was a kid aged about 4 or 5 constantly swinging around the pole on a train last week, and his mum clapped when he managed to climb halfway up 🙄

Wasn’t really my question

London (and everywhere?) is full of phone zombies. Save yourself and your child. The so called parents staring at their phones while their child swings from the handrail are not your concern because there are too many of them. Ward them off with a swatting device and your back.

Yes this!! It’s almost as if this style of parenting is like how dangerous the child can be the better? I’m all for not helicoptering my child but if we have no shared Social code then what happens to society?

It would appear many parents have stopped parenting full stop given the behaviour of many children, teenagers, and young adults.

This is true, if I didn’t have my young baby there I would have just left my seat and gone elsewhere, someone else’s problem kinda vibe. But I draw the line at genuinely dangerous behaviour that may impact me
its just crazy how oblivious or even as poster above says encouraging these parents are

not just public transport
supermarkets, restaurants, cinema...

So depressing
I don’t go to the cinema / theatre etc as children very young. Supermarket I get delivered so again I avoid it
but the public transport it’s so noticeable. I don’t see why having boundaries and discipline is seen as a bad thing.

I think bad parenting and/or badly behaved children are just more noticeable. We were on the tube on Sunday and my children sat/stood quietly the whole time but you probably wouldn’t have noticed them because they were quiet. If there’s one kid playing up in a carriage then that’s what you’ll see, you may not even clock the other 5 kids who are sitting with their parents at the other end.

It's good to do any kind of defensive martial arts. Assume a crouching squat position and ward them off around the buggy. No violence, just form a wall with your back and shoulders. If they end up bouncing back onto the floor after a flying kick from the handrail, maybe the parent will look up from the phone. Maybe not. Survival of the fittest. Peace on the streets ❤️

I don’t see why having boundaries and discipline is seen as a bad thing.
Neither do I. But probably 90% of their parents are on phones and haven't a fucking clue what their children are doing.

I know parents absolutely hate it when other people tell their children off, but I sometimes have to when parents are not doing their duty! The other day in the park a small child was chasing a family of ducks. Poor little ducklings were frantic, running away, trying to get to the water and becoming separated from their parents. The kid’s parents were looking at their little child adoringly. So instead of going to the parents and hope that they’ll do what is necessary I just stopped the child and asked him to stop chasing the poor ducks.

I work on the edge of a park and I've lost count of how many times I've had to tell kids to stop chasing geese, and stop picking the bloody flowers.

YANBU, OP. The last time I was on a non-commuting tube, there was a dad actively competing with his 7/8yo daughter to see who could hang monkey bar style off the top handrail the longest 🙄. Absolute moron. I've also no qualms about telling off other people's children and have done with big kids being rough in the baby section of a soft play for example, but i also think that is partly from being a Brown Owl as well!

And the point is?
OP is talking about poor parenting, not por adulting

They also look like a damn stripper. 😳 Just Me?