Tips on how to get over a workplace crush…

[verasbra]

Ira absolutely ridiculous and I’m driving myself insane.

To start off, I am single - and so is he as far as I’m aware which makes things 100x worse. I wish he wasn’t. Nothing could ever happen with this crush and I’m 8 years older than him anyway.

I love my job and it fits in well with family life.

I try to avoid him the best I can and don’t speak to him unless I really have too - without being rude. I’m always friendly if I need to speak to him though and then wonder if I’ve just made it obvious that I got our entire lives planned in my head 😂

Im just really not enjoying the fact that I fancy the pants off my co-worker. At first it was nice, now it’s not 🙄😂

Any tips on how to get passed this please?

Why can’t anything happen?

Go for it!

I wouldn’t be his type for a start.

Even if I was, it wouldn’t go down well at work. We work in a school and I have a child that attends the same school.

Just ask him out and keep it between the two of you, nobody else needs to know. If you really don’t want to do that then your going have to get over him the old fashioned way.. Picture him having a poo until you get the ick.

If you won’t ask him out, just let it run. It will wear off eventually by itself

Imagine that he voted reform?

@ALittleBitWooo

well he also teaches my child just to add to it. Not that my child would know either but it would be deeply frowned upon if it ever did happen!

zero chance of me ever asking that so…..🚽 💩 thinking is the way forward clearly

Find a fictional man to crush on instead? I recommend Bridgerton. Season 3 Colin once he falls for Pen is better than any man in real life will ever be.

imagine him doing gross things or being crap in bed or something. really, every time you think of him, think 'oh, that's Jasper who picks his nose' or whatever. it will give you the ick

Imagine him having a really smelly poo and then not washing his hands / picking his nose / scratching his balls / wearing his socks twice. All of these things are probably true as they are for most men. Try and take off your rose tinted glasses 😉

I’m in a similar position, it was nice for a while but now it’s not, I feel self conscious and awkward around him. No point in thinking of him doing anything gross because he just isn't. I’m leaving my role and I’m quite relived I won’t see him anymore.

He has named his penis "Mr whizzyfizz" as in "oh @verasbra I fancy you so much you have excited mr whizzyfizz"

Yeah that is quite gross actually….i must do this when i see him tomorrow.

The thing is….probably won’t make a difference. I’m such a big softy when it comes to men who are amazing with kids (probably down to childhood and the fact my dad was crap that I really appreciate it) and he’s the most amazing teacher - the kids adore him. Not as much as me but still….

I’ve thought about doing this also but I just love my job and everything that goes with it. It would also be pointless and I’d still see him as a parent in school anyway.

Nice to know I’m not alone though - good luck in your new job and being crush free!

Couldnt agree more! The ACOTAR books are a perfect distraction... you won't be able to put it down!

Hi @verasbra
I think there have been a few good suggestions and you'd be no worse off for trying them e.g. from now on they are referred to mentally as Mr Poo-Stripes and picture him wearing foul underpants, flies following, moth pants 😄 Close your eyes. Really make it silly but see it in your mind's eye, smell it so much makes you bawk. Whatever it takes to make you feel they are utterly unattractive.

We have crushes because it is a "safe" way to romantacise but this is not reality. This person will fart/belch/pick pants from bum etc just like the next guy 🤭

All the best on kicking this fantasy aka lie to the kerb and finding a real partner. You wouldnt want to be deemed unprofessional by parents and colleagues x