To go on holiday with no children

[Munchies007]

Children are 13, 15 and 17. Every year I go to Spain with my three kids for six weeks. My DH comes at the end for two weeks. Last year my then 16 year old stayed at home as she was volunteering in a summer camp and was enjoying it so I brought the younger two.

Last year we decided that the now 15 year old would stay at home as she plays a sport at a high level and can't miss training for 6 weeks. 15 and 17 year old will volunteer at the camp four days a week for three weeks. Both are looking forward to it.

So the plan was for me to bring 13 year old and DH and DD follow us after three weeks. Flights and accommodation booked and paid for and DS has said he is not going. He wants to stay at home as 6 weeks is too long for him now.

WIBU to go by myself? My DH says it's up to me what I want to do.

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Personally I think it’s a lot to ask of your husband just so you can have a long holiday… but I have a baby and a toddler so don’t know how self sufficient they are at that age. Won’t he have to ferry them back and forth to clubs and things while juggling work?

If your DH is happy and the kids are happy then why not?

My 15 and 17 year old will walk to the summer camp. My 13 year old can go too if he wants too.

My DH has no problem with me going, he's just a bit worried that I will be safe on my own.

What will you do on your own? If you are there staying with family and being busy, I can see it. I’ve been on holiday without my children, but with other people for an activity, or to visit friends. I can’t imagine going on holiday for such a long time without friends or family.

Since the kids and DH are happy with the arrangement why not? Go rest, enjoy and then have fun with them when they come. I love going away on my own.

I’d love it and could easily fill those six weeks with something and nothing. I’ve holidayed alone previously and had a grand ole selfish time! Do it!

I go to the same area every year so I know it well. I have friends and family who I can meet up with if I want. I like my own company so not worried about being lonely. I will miss my children desperately but I have also been a SAHM for many years with a bit of childminding thrown in so I feel like the break will do me good. I'm in the throes of peri menopause and have had tests for both breast cancer and endometrial cancer over the last few months.

It's 22 days on my own before DH and kids arrive.

Sounds wonderful and much needed, go for it

So it’s only 3 weeks really. If everyone’s happy then go.

You wont miss your kids, you can FaceTime them every night if you want. Mine are away at uni and they talk to me more now than they did when they were at home and sulking in their bedrooms.

Sounds like it’s totally up to you!
I would miss mine too much to be away for that long, but would maybe do a week or two.

If you are confident you would enjoy it - go for it.

If everyone happy with it then go.

Do it. Have some time for you. Do what you want, when you want and enjoy the break. I regularly holiday alone (my children are grown up so they don't need me for anything) but that time alone is refreshing.