What does your 17yo do to help around the house?

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I was just wondering what your 17yo old does to help around the house?
My DD 17, has no chores. The only thing I now ask of her is to Hoover, dust and keep her own bedroom tidy. We started this at the beginning of the year and it has still not been done once.
I went out for the evening last night and asked her to walk the dog and wash up after she’d finished dinner, neither were completed because she forgot!
I lived on my own from 16, so was completely independent and not really sure what is expected of a 17yo living at home still. I am a single parent so doing it all and also have an 11yr old dd, who will help with chores when asked.

17 year old son will hoover, cook the dinner and does the washing up without me asking. Only really started this year though.....

When DS was at home, he's 42 now, he did all his own washing and ironing, I taught him to cook and he washed up and hoovered. The only place I didn't interfere was his bedroom.
He had to do those things because I had a very demanding job and was a single mum. I often wasn't there to cook in the evening. Whoever was home first hoovered if the house needed it.
We also went through bank accounts, savings and bills.
He is a very organised adult which is great as DIL isn't.

My youngest is 19 now but from about 14 was doing his own washing and the dishwasher. Now he can drive, when he's home he helps with driving his disabled brother about and cares for him when I go out. He's not perfect and often needs reminding but he's a good lad who does all his studies. He will do anything else I ask as well like washing towels, stripping beds etc.

Hoovers / Dishwasher / Keeps room tidy - can also cook and do washing. Not everyday but the understanding is we are a team here

• All of the cleaning involved in their own room.
• Unloads the dishwasher every time it’s run a cycle.
• Occasionally I ask them to hang laundry.
• Does the family washing up after dinner once a week.
• Does their own ironing - for school dress code.
• Feeds the pets daily.

My 17yo does loads, I've brought all my kids up with the expectation that they contribute to family life from about 10. I'm also a single parent.

She doesn't have set chores anymore, but she does things as needed if I'm running late she will make tea, she cleans if she sees the bathroom needs done or the hoovering or whatever, she babysit her younger siblings, although I do pay her for that, she will pick up things from the shop if she spots we are running low on something.

Does own laundry including bedding
Weekly wipe down/tidy of bathroom
Empties dishwasher
Walks dog if asked
Cooks for self if I'm busy or away

Dd is nearly 17 and in her first year of A levels.

She is spectacularly messy and her room is a disgrace. She is responsible for it, I don't help unless she's doing the lion's share and, for example, is revising for exams.

She does change her bedding.

She does her own laundry 95% of the time.

She cooks several times a week as I finish work late but never does any clearing up or kitchen stuff, whoever is cooking.

She will hoover when nagged and walk the dog when nagged a lot.

Could be a hell of a lot better.

Her sister (nearly 21) is at uni but even before she left, she was much more proactive in doing stuff and much more willing to help, both with and without being asked.

My DS does his own laundry, puts dishwashing on, feeds the cat. Supposed to tidy bedroom but not so good at that. He can cook but needs more practice, so I need to get him to do it more.

Responsible for keeping own room hygienic (that means things like no dirty plates or half eaten food lying around, and dirty washing put in washing basket).

Changes and washing own bedding and towels

Shares in a weekend clean up - we have 4 jobs: hoover and dust upstairs, hoover and dust downstairs, bathrooms, mopping and mirrors - which we split between the 4 of us.

Cooks once a week

I would suggest a frank conversation where you explain that your DC lives there too and you would like them to do a fair share of the housework. And see what they come up with.
I'd also suggest that tasks that relate only to themselves or can be done at any time are better for a reluctant teen. If my DC chooses to live in a room where you can't see the floor, that's up to them. If they are on bathrooms as their cleaning job, as long as it's done by Sunday night, I'm not standing over them expecting it done.

17yo DD keeps her own room tidy, dusted, hoover etc. She cooks for the family once a week, and for herself probably 4 other days most weeks.

She'll sort out the kitchen unprompted, wash up, put the dishwasher on, wipe the surfaces down etc. And she'll put a wash on the line or the horse if she notices it sat in the machine.

That's it for doing stuff unprompted. She'll put a wash on, hoover the house, do some dusting or gardening if one of us asks her to, but she'd never do it off her own back. She'll also get involved with helping with DIY.

The only things she's properly never done is clean the bathrooms, but only because we've never asked her to.

To be honest, she's probably out of the house more than us right now. She's got a worse commute for college than either of us, and between that, her job, driving lessons and homework / revision, she's probably got the least free time of the 3 of us, so we don't ask her to do that much right now.

I've got a list of jobs as long as my arm ready to chuck at her over the summer though.