To want my child removed from social services database?

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My ex-husband (split 13 years ago) recently split from his second wife. They have 3 shared children. Been going through court for the last year, social services investigation was opened into the welfare of all the children in the household including my son (who had 50/50) shared care after they both made accusations about each other with respect to the shared children.

I've basically been told nothing about what the accusations even were due to confidentiality, I know very little about it. SS closed the investigation into my son early because they saw that he was doing fine now they have split up, and saw me as a major protective factor. He's also been doing counselling etc. It's been really tough for him, but he's actually soldiered on through it all really well, I'm very proud of him.

I have a 2 year old, shared with my second husband. Yesterday she had a health visitor check up. She asked me how the social services investigation into my family was going with respect to my daughter. I obviously explained the situation, but I'm kind of horrified that my daughter's name has flagged in a database of having social services involvement. She's completely unrelated to anything which has been going on. Never even met the people involved. The HV thought it was about my current husband, who also has nothing to do with it. It's all about my first husband, his second wife and their shared children. There's obviously minimal notes on whatever system which leads them to draw their own (incorrect) conclusions about our family situation.

I think my son should absolutely be on that system, it needs to flag that there's been something significant in his life, but AIBU to want my daughter's name removed from the database so it doesn't flag up at the GP, school etc forever more?

Would anyone know how I go about requesting that?

You know “nothing about the accusations”

so very unlikely you’ll be able to do anything about this

No because a sibling having experienced possible abuse or neglect will be a risk factor for your daughter essentially.

Edit

.misunderstood post

He was a real arse, self-confessed lack of empathy or understanding of people's feelings, fits of rage, constantly berated me for not being good enough at anything, essentially being an inadequate person.This is really the tip of the iceberg - there were times he pressured and pretty much forced me into sex, the time he pinned me on the bed and shouted in my face, friends he insisted I never see again, relationships ruined forever... the time he threatened to beat (then baby) DS because he wouldn't go to sleep... the list is endless.

bloody hell. It’s a good job social services did get involved

You can't ask for the child's name to be removed as it's relevant to your older child.

It's most likely that the HV simply didn't read the information properly, but if you want to check your current husband isn't wrongly implicated you can make a Subject Access Request to social services for information that they hold on you and your children, but it's likely to be heavily redacted. If information is wrong you can request a correction.

Your child should absolutely be on there. Don't waste their time.

You cant get it removed anyway, its a record of contact/case notes/assessment/reason for closure. Why would it be appropriate for that to disappear?

Because the record obviously isn't very complete. The HV thought my current husband has been potentially abusing my child. He has not been.

Thanks that's really helpful!

You dont know if that was her mistake and misunderstanding. Why dont you ask her.

I could ask her, that's a good idea. My concern is that if she misunderstood, it might happen again in the future.

The request for information the other poster suggested is also a good idea. I'll do both.

Well nothing you can do about HV not reading reports properly and misunderstanding

No, but I could try and prevent it from happening in the future

But if the HV read the report wrong (likely), there is nothing you can do to stop a daft HV mis reading again

It might be if the info made it difficult for the HV to understand the complexity. It's likely it needs to be spend our more clearly that your household (your DH and DDs father) is not under investigation.

The HV won't have access to the full SS database. Health just have minimal access. Enough to tell them there has been an issue but not all the in depth detail.