Feeding the dog (a small amount) of onion powder

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DH has been out tonight, it's a once a month thing he does with friends and seems to usually be a relatively quiet evening. Tonight he's come home and it feels like he might have had one or two more than usual. I'm totally fine with that, he can do what he wants but have a feeling it relates to his actions here.
My annoyance comes from when he got home, we were having a nice chat about his evening and he then fed a crisp from the pack he was eating to the dog. These crisps have onion powder in which is poisonous to dogs. The amount of crisp he gave probably isn't going to do any harm given the size of the dog but that's not the point.

I just can't see why you would feed something you know is harmful, even in small amounts, especially when we have so many different options of dog safe treats literally in arms length.
He's told me I'm totally overreacting when I asked him not to and said I'm blowing everything out of proportion, but I just can't wrap my head around doubling down on feeding the dog something he knows he shouldn't have??

Even if DH said "yeah, you know what, that was stupid, shouldn't do it again" I'd be fine and accept it was a mistake. But he's now stormed off to bed telling me I'm being ridiculous for not 'allowing' him to feed the dog what he wants.
Willing to accept IABU because it was just a crisp and I know that in itself won't actually hurt but it's the doubling down on the principle which really gets me. Am I crazy?

Here to thank op for pointing out that crisps may contain onion powder which I will be wary of going forward 👍🏼

My ddog snaffled 3 onion rings as a pup and was fine. One crisp wont make much difference.

But he's now stormed off to bed telling me I'm being ridiculous for not 'allowing' him to feed the dog what he wants.

He sounds like a child. He shouldn’t have fed it to the dog in the first place, but as you say, he should have admitted it was a mistake to do it once he had, not had a toddler tantrum. Hopefully he’ll feel like a twat in the morning and apologise.

Sorry I think you have overreacted a little.

Yes onion powder is toxic to dogs in a certain quantity, but the amount of it in one packet of crisps, let alone the one crisp the dog ate, is negligible. Not even close to dangerous.

Of course, the dog didn’t need to be given the crisp anyway. But I’m sure most dog owners are guilty of sharing a bite of a snack when their dog gives them the big eyes.

Side point - tonight probably wasn’t the time to argue about it. It’s so frustrating when you’ve had a rare great night out then you come home to a conversation like this. Would have been better to wait until the morning for a chat along the lines of “I know one crisp doesn’t harm but can we agree to just not give the dog any human food snacks”.

Is he fighting because he wants to do it again?? Makes no sense. He shouldn’t be feeding that to the dog.

You know it's just a crisp. You were overreacting and blowing it out of proportion like he said, you know that it won't hurt the dog but you still want him to be contrite about it? I don't really understand where you are coming from here.

Thank you all for your opinions. I think there's a good balance and something here for me to consider.
DH adores our dog and would never do anything intentionally to hurt him. I think it was just a moment of drunkenness, which, in context, is mostly irrelevant, it just struck me as a totally unnecessary thing to do, especially when we have so many options easily available. I have every hope that we can talk this out properly in the morning like adults and see where each other are coming from.

In particular @paranoiaofpufflings, I'm totally aware it's just a small crisp. I know the crisp in itself won't do anything but it just seems so unnecessary when we have literally 3 different options for dog safe treats within arms reach of where the crisp was offered. It just feels so unnecessary, especially when there are SUPER rare high value treats readily available within reach which are both more healthy AND more coveted by the dog.
Your point about tonight not being the time to address this is very valid though. I couldn't help myself in the moment but with hindsight, you're totally correct, and addressing it later is much more appropriate, especially given there has been alcohol involved tonight. If it were a more serious issue then addressing it now seems fair, but given the low stakes of a single crisp... There was definitely time to leave all parties to cool off first..
This is not to argue against your points, more to give context as to where my mind's at - the issue isn't the crisp, just how unnecessary it was in the moment!

Personally, I'd be more worried that he's teaching the dog to beg. My dog has never had anything from my plate, including crisps.

I dislike people giving their dogs UPF - pretty much in the same way I dislike people giving their children UPF. And I think feeding dogs at the same time human's eat is a bad idea in general (teaches them to beg etc). So I can see why you were annoyed, even though I agree the portion was negligible.

That being said, his reaction was ridiculous and he needs to grow up. I 100% believe you call out bad, shitty or otherwise stupid behaviour at the time and not 'later' and just because someone is drunk it isn't an excuse to give them a free pass to be a bit of a dick and likewise having a 'good night out' isn't a free pass to be a bit of a dick.

Well no it shouldnt have happened but I presume his problem may have him feeling like you went over the top and told him off like he was a naughty school boy? or maybe you were calm and he didnt like it?

we werent there but I guess it depends on how it happened?