First trimester is bloody awful, isn’t it

[Pinkstuffs]

Second baby, so I naively thought my body would be used to the hormones now, as I’ve heard women saying their symptoms weren’t as bad second time round.

I was feeling all smug and fine until I hit 6 weeks pregnant and bam! I feel absolutely horrendous. Constantly nauseous, stomach turning over all day, actual vomiting in the evenings and at the smell of anything slightly horrible. Even catching a sniff of my DS1’s bedtime milk made me vomit.

Literally dizzy with tiredness, legs aching, headaches, insanely sore boobs and nipples, nosebleed every morning, bloated and can’t go to the toilet. So insanely tired but then can’t sleep if I wake up at night.

Oh and you’re not supposed to tell anyone that or why you’re feeling so bad, so struggling on with work etc just trying to get through every hour and act normal.

I’m not BU, am I?!

You can tell who you like, there are no rules to follow but your own.
I hope it passes soon. x

It's horrible. It will pass though remember. For me it was an awful 6 weeks.

Yes, and sickness has hit me quicker this time. I really didn't want to tell people until I was further along but think it's going to be unavoidable. The nursery staff already know as I needed to explain my child wasn't going to catch a vomiting bug from me.

Last time it went on well into the 2nd trimester too..urgh

Every woman i know has said the second time around is a lot worse. The sickness is worse, PGP is worse, any complications you had the first time are very likely to happen the second time too.

You also have zero time to rest as you have another child now.

Puts me off having a second one. I don't think I can manage pregnancy again.

My sympathies. I’m 15 weeks into my first pregnancy and I’m stunned at how unwell I’ve been. Other women have made it look easy but I now realise they must have been pretending to be ok. The phrase ‘you’re pregnant, not unwell’ was what I used to believe…until now!

I hope you feel better soon. You sound like you’re really suffering. Speak to the midwives if you find you can’t eat or something like that. Also, fibrogel is good for constipation and is pregnancy-safe.

My first pregnancy was split into the exhausted nausea half where I was losing weight despite gaining bump. Food was repellent.

Then there was the painful SPD half that resulted in being near housebound by the end and gaining 50% of my bodyweight in 4.5 months because of a big baby, lots of fluid and trashing my metabolism from lack of movement.

I must really love DS1 to have created the sequel
Second time was better for knowing how to cope a bit better. Sod health, if there's a random interest in something vaguely edible, eat it ASAP. And I had heard of SPD and learned some strategies to live with it which was better than being brushed off by the GP with "pregnancy aches and pains" when I couldn't even walk around a supermarket any more.

There is no DC3!

Yeah it's horrible. I did tell work though (first time around I wanted the risk assessment done asap as there were some things I should not be doing whilst pregnant). I ended up with 3 or 4 weeks off - even if you don't want to tell work you can get signed off if necessary, the doctor doesn't have to say it's pregnancy related.

It’s horrendous.
I’m pregnant with my third and I do not remember feeling this horrendous with the other 2

no symptoms until week 6. Then all of a sudden I felt sick constantly, felt like I was going to keel over even washing the dishes, I’ve been beyond exhausted.

I’m 9 weeks now and I do feel more alive, but the sickness has not gone away.

I ended up telling a couple of people at work because there’s no way I could’ve hidden how bad I felt.

My second was way worse than my first, I breezed through my first pregnancy with a bit of mild nausea and being a bit tired, with my second I felt sick all day every day until the baby came out and couldn’t walk the length of myself without needing a lie down.

It sucks OP, hope you feel better soon.

Yep it's the pits OP, I feel for you.
Week 15 for me was like waking up from out of the pits of hell.
(I'll keep quiet about the last few weeks of the 3rd trimester mind you!)

100% not unreasonable. I was rough from 6 weeks to 18 weeks. Couldn't consequently put much weight on and barely looked pregnant for ages. Not sure if it was due to it being an IVF pregnancy, it being twins or bad luck.

Definitely worse the second time due to less rest running around after a crazy two year old. I told my line manager and a couple of close colleagues as I felt so rough. They weren’t surprised as it was obvious from my pastey face. It was a relief to tell them and they really supported me.

I'd take the vomiting over this second trimester sciatica pain any day.. never experienced such excruciate pain completely paralyzed you on the spot 😭😭😭

The tiredness and sickness were debilitating for me. Hope it improves quickly for you op xx

Haha yes. I’m 14 weeks with #2 and it’s been so much worse. I felt rubbish but got through it with DD but I have been on 2 types of medication this time! I think the first time you can nap when you like, sit on the sofa and watch tv all weekend, no night wakes, lie ins….. definitely contributes to feeling sick and exhausted

I know it's an old wives tale but strong symptoms means a strong pregnancy. Small comfort when you're feeling so rough!

It’s awful and years and years later I’ve never forgotten how sick I felt every single minute. I hope it passes quickly for you!

Ugh so much nausea second time around! I still struggle to be around fish after the fish revulsion while pregnant with DD, and she’s now 7! I banned onions and garlic from the house, they smelt rank on DH’s breath. I kept a biscuit by my bed on advice from my OB, to eat in the middle of the night and keep my sugar levels up. It helped a little. Also, morning sickness my bottom! I had it all day long, and all through the second trimester. I know it doesn’t feel like it now, but I promise you your pregnancy will fly by, especially as you have a DC1 to keep you very busy. Just remembered, try peppermint oil on a hanky to combat the waves of nausea and also to block out any offending smells!

Am currently in the “should we try for baby #2 phase” but these posts have brought back how awful I felt first time. I didn’t realise it was likely to be worse second time!!! I don’t know if I could do it again

edited to say hope you start to feel better soon OP, sounds really tough