To think these women are utterly deluded

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I stumbled across a group on Facebook which is full of women who are adamant that their convicted sex offender partners are all falsely accused and falsely conducted.

They speak with such venom about the victims of sexual assault and rape and I was really taken aback by it. There's a theme of claiming the girls make the claims to receive compensation.

I'm sure there are some false accusations, but that's nothing compared to actual assaults. And convictions are so so difficult to secure!

By definition, any woman who willingly partners with a convicted sex offender is going to be, oh what is that delightful English phrase, 'thick as mince'.

Any woman with an IQ above that of a turnip knows how hard it is to actually convict for a sex crime. The evidence has to be iron clad.

So stupid + desperate = cling to the rapist scum and defend him and your own sanity with delusion power.

I watched the Louis Theroux documentary about Savile and there was a woman who he had 'given away ' at her wedding and made a speech.

Despite the hundreds and hundreds of victims, she was adamant it was all lies and he had done nothing wrong.

Despite the hundreds of victims, Harold Shipman's wife refused to believe he was guilty.

Women marry men who will never be released because of their horrific crimes.

I worked with a woman whose husband was found guilty of paedophilia. She came into work, head held high and fought tirelessly for her husband to continue to have access to his little girls.

Some women centre men so much that in a way, they themselves become as dangerous. The wives and sisters of many of the men convicted of grooming and trafficking in Rochdale routinely berate victims and share their full names (doxxing them) on Tik Tok live. It must be hard to find out your partner is a sex offender, I’m sure it’s really hard. A week or so ago there was a thread on here about a woman who’s partner had bribed his younger sister to perform sex acts on him, and she seemed to want to stay with an incestuous sex offender. It’s very weird, but some people are just wired like that and are delusional.

Its a really hard thing to accept and in trying to deal with the distress, a lot of people project it onto the victims. Not just partners, but parents, siblings, children of, etc etc. Its awful to see, and the victim blaming is often really shocking. Its all very sad.

I think there's probably something about how a partner/wife sees themselves and their life thar can lead them down this path. A bit like feeling their life is a lie or the thought that should have known/would have noticed* is worse to face than the truth... I don't know exactly how to put it in a way that makes sense!

(*I don't personally think it is obvious and partners would somehow know for clarification)

I agree, @SquidLife and also think that we mentally 'merge' in some way with our family members - so that if they do something awful, it also changes our view of what we, ourselves, are like.

I used to think wtf and now I’ve recently witnessed someone I know staying with a paedophile and defending him even when presented with all the prison sentences and news articles. And now I’m even more WTF
love really is blind

Some people are so caught up in maintaining their life and their relationship, they'll forgive or just deny almost anything, usually at the expense of strangers but sometimes at the expense of their kids too (if abuse turns on them). It is a form of delusion.