To have found what this mum said to my DH out of line

[commentingmum]

there was a school event on recently and the parents were invited. I usually attend but couldn’t make it and sent my DH.

I told my DS6 that I wouldn’t be able to come but would send his dad. He was a bit disappointed. In any case my DH went along and my DS was not happy.

other parents and teachers saw this behaviour of course.

one of the mums said to my husband that it’s quite clear he needs to spend less time at work and more time with his son.

I am not particularly keen on this mum in the first place, so I’m unsure if that’s clouding my judgement - but it’s not a very nice thing to say? Everyone else was supportive and trying to help the situation, yet she came out with that..

She was rude, but weird that you talking about how you "sent" your DH. Is he a child too?

We need more context surely? Were they having a big conversation and he said his wife attends these things etc etc? Because to be fair more men do need to attend school events, there’s a handful tops at any pt meetings

Would she have said this to a Mum if it was the other way round?

Of course it’s rude.

I assume your DS’s behaviour was less about DH being there and more about you not being there and so her comment was unnecessary.

DS needs to understand that you can’t always be there.

And I assume DH needs to learn how to manage DS’s behaviour properly.

She’s very rude, yes. It’s literally none of her business. How to make enemies(!)

This woman was totally out of order. My youngest is now in her final year of high school and I can not wait to put the school years behind me.....mainly because of other comments like this from Mums who stick there nose in and cause trouble when it's not needed. She sounds horrible and no wonder you dont like her OP. My advice going forward would be to completely ignore this woman and keep yourself to yourself where school is concerned. Concentrate on your own family. At least your child had a parent there.....alot have nobody there if parents both work!!!

Well someone needs to go to work to provide a roof over your son’s head and food for his belly.

She was rude and interfering.

But hopefully this is an opportunity for you to unpick why your son was so upset dad was there instead of mum. Perhaps he does need to work on his relationship with his son? Most people need to work, but there are other times and ways to be an active and involved parent.

Honestly there are so many crap dads and husbands out there, there might be fewer if there was some actual peer pressure to be present and turn up. You've not clarified whether he's normally very involved so appreciate this may not be relevant. But there's a dad in DH's friendship group that still acts like a single man and I think it's good when the other dads tell him it's not cool to leave his partner to do bedtime every night. More social pressure would make it harder for some dads to get away with being rubbish.

This post was back in May and the OP never returned. I wouldn’t bother posting people

Was your DS S behavior disruptive and your DH unable (or unwilling?) to manage him? You say other parents were trying to help. I wouldn’t be happy to parent other peoples DC at any event just because they seem incapable of doing it themselves. It was a snarky comment and I don’t think she should’ve said it but I can’t imagine it came from nowhere.

Rude. Many dc have 2 working parents who need to work and it’s none of her damned business. I certainly couldn’t make an event during the day. Great for her if she has the capacity to attend.