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Should I say something?

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KM99 · 07/05/2025 15:34

Objective advice much appreciated. Split from my husband well over a year ago. We had to live together for quite a long period until the house was sold about 5 months ago. As amicable as it can be, I initiated the split. Just grew apart over many years. We have 1 DS (11).

Ex told me a few days ago he's in a new relationship. I'd suspected as much and overall I'm happy for him. Of course after over 25 years together it's going to bring on a mixture of feelings but it's a healthy and good thing. He said he wanted to hold off telling DS for a little while. All fine.

My problem is he told me so I wouldn't be surprised. 24 hours later he's posted it on Facebook. They been together 2 months and he hasn't told DS yet. I'm worried my DS is going to hear about this second hand now. He's been through an awful lot of change already.

So, do I say something e.g. all your friends and family know, but your DS doesn't OR do I keep my mouth shut?

OP posts:
Moonnstars · 07/05/2025 16:21

I assume 11 year olds don't use Facebook so wouldn't see it that way.
I would perhaps speak to your ex and just ask when he is going to speak to your son. You can say it was good of him to tell you, but you were wondering when he would be telling DS or if he is expecting you to do so.

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