Looking at women online v replying to women online

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I'm in a semi-relationship with a man, we're not together but we see each other, and I think there are feelings on both sides. Recently I've spotted he's using a section of social media I rarely go on, but I got one of those 'people you may want to follow' notifications, with him as the suggestion. Now I do know men look at women online, I'm not stupid, they all do it. (Do they?) But he's replying to them. This to me is a whole step above. Do I confront him? Maybe I have no right as we are not officially together, but I don't want to just let it go, I've had too many relationships where I say nothing just to keep the peace. This has really thrown me as we have become very close and I've felt as if I can finally trust someone and let my guard down, and now this. Am I being a naggy girlfriend, or a social media stalker, or do I voice my feelings as a grown woman who has had enough disappointment in love?

Get your money back for the trainers.

Honestly, neither of you sound like you should be in a relationship, 'semi' or not.

you don’t need to be in a relationship not to like it. If it’s your boundary you leave you don’t try and change someone’s behaviour.

we don’t need to convince you. There are other men, there are other ways to be social or get out of the house.

don’t entertain entering into a relationship with someone’s who basic behaviours you don’t like. It’s a recipe for disaster.

Return the trainers, dump him. And only date when you aren’t with your ex properly - no idea what a semi relationship is - is this a new thing for 2025?

He’s a man who replies to sex bots on social media. That would give the massive ick as well as identify him as being a loser.

send The trainers in the mail and end it over the phone

With respect OP, you live with another man. You can dress it up how you want but you aren’t in a relationship with this other man and he’s free to do as he chooses.

why are you buying clothes for his son??

Good lord op. He is a low life sleaze. Yes lots of men look at other women and porn but if that is not something that you accept (who would ?) then get rid and move on. Sounds to me like the trainers are the excuse you are looking for to keep in touch with him. Send the trainers back, return them for a refund or post them to his son.