My husband doesn’t want sex ever

[Whattodonowthenfucker]

Not sure where we go from here. Husband has no libido. He’s 52 and I’m 55 (with a healthy sex drive). He’s been like this for a few years. He’s trying with testosterone pills. It’s making no difference. What annoys me is that I’ve told him I would be ok with 10 mins of vibrator action once a week but he never does it. We’ve had 2 fumbles this year that lasted 10 mins, and no piv involved. If you saw him in a pub you’d never believe it: he is tall dark and handsome, you’d never guess he’s shit in the sheets. Wtf do I do?

Don't think looks have anything to do with sex drive @Whattodonowthenfucker !

You say that the drop off in his sex drive started a few years ago. Did something happen then? Was it a slow, gradual decline or did he suddenly go off sex with you?

On here, you sound really frustrated and angry (which is understandable) and I'm wondering if that comes across when you are together? If someone was fed up and frustrated with me, I'm not sure I'd find that encouraging or a turn on.

Do you think it is a physical thing or a mental thing? You say he's trying testosterone treatment and it hasn't worked. How long has he been on it for?

Has he tried viagra (or similar)? Does he not want to, or things aren't working so he no longer wants to try and fail?

Mainly, women get told it’s perfectly natural, and their partners should shut up and tolerate it. Men who post with the same issue tend to get eviscerated.

There's more to life than sex.

You need a long, frank conversation about why etc

If you can’t live with it, after talking, then make plans for your future.

There’s more to life than being in a sexless marriage.

If my DH knew I was struggling with my libido, but expected me to (unwillingly) pleasure him weekly with a sex toy, that would be the end of our ralationship. So disrespectful.

He's clearly not the man for the job! Leave him, 55 is too young to be giving up on this part of your life. If you don't want to leave him perhaps discuss having an open relationship?

This is a post from May last year - why was it resurrected?

There's been a bit of a pattern of reviving old threads- over the last couple of days